Sometimes too much of a good thing is not wonderful, as Mae West said it was. Instead it can be time consuming. Too many potential suitors can mean it’s time to release some back into the dating pool. Today I had dates with two new guys — one for lunch, one for coffee. Additionally, I…
Month: October 2006
Dating’s revolving door
Some of my friends tease me about the revolving door of my dating life. It is true that men come and go through my life, some rather quickly, others lingering longer. (See “They come, they go.”) My pals have asked “Why? Why don’t more men stick around?” Good question. Some have. But I think I’ve…
Do you hide your “light” from a date?
A gal pal asked me, “How do your dates respond to your accomplishments?” I responded, “Most don’t know about them.” “Really? Why not?” “Because I don’t tell them.” “Why?” “First of all, it’s not like I’m a Nobel laureate, Supreme Court judge, Academy Award nominee or brain surgeon. My accomplishments pale compared to other people…
What’s your definition of romance?
Often men say they are romantic in their online dating profiles. I’ve learned this means different things to different people. One may think that calling every day is romantic, while the other is expecting regular cards, letters, and candle-lit dinners. It seems men and women often have different concepts of romance. This is so common,…
When you’re clear on what you want, it appears
In the past year I attended both the Toronto and San Jose Film Festivals. I loved screening yet-to-be-released films followed by live commentary from the writers, directors and stars. I delighted in the experience so much, I thought, “I’d like to be with someone in the movie business. It would be fun to hang out…
Rocket Man
I’ve become fond of a man online who blows things up for a living. Tiny things. Miniatures. For the movies. And he’s won an Oscar for his demolition efforts. Isn’t this nearly every man’s childhood dream? To make a living destroying things? How fun! He specializes in igniting things. He says he “paints with fire.”…
Online dating time equivalent to dog years
Sometimes you hit it off with someone online and you exchange a flurry of emails. That is if you ignore the advice in The Rules for Online Dating. Authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneide tell women never to respond to an email from a potential suitor before 24 hours pass. Well, I’ve ignored The Rules….
“Men are putty” — sometimes silly putty
A male pal shared that he was dating a new woman. He said he was really drawn to her, because, in part she was into him! Isn’t it interesting how attractive someone can become when he or she is attracted to you? He excitedly shared that she was happy when he called, said she enjoyed…
Toad rage
You know I don’t label any of the men I’ve gone out with as losers, frogs, toads, jerks, freaks, geeks, dweebs, nerds or cads. However, every once in a while, I come in contact with someone who acts immaturely — or toadlike. This was the case with a man who emailed me but didn’t really…
Control freak or detail oriented?
In the 18 months between when my ex left and I started dating, I had plenty of time to consider what I wanted in my next man. One of my realizations was I planned 99% of outings in my marriage. I wanted a man who would take the time to plan, as I was burnt…
Are you a good man picker?
A Dating Goddess reader wrote lamenting her string of dates who weren’t a fit. She said, “I am struck by how consistently poor my ‘picking ability’ is.” How is your picking ability? Do you, too, have a string of first dates, but not second ones? Or you may have multiple dates, but nothing long term?…