Just as the song “Where Have All the Flowers Gone” mourns the disappearance of things that are important to us, my gal pal bewailed her experience not finding interesting eligible bachelors. She said, “Where are the dynamic men — like me? Where are the funny men — like me? Where are the adventurous men — like me? Where are the intelligent men — like me?”
Although she is 6 weeks shy of her 50th birthday, her last few beaus have been in their twenties. Men she encountered her own age were unable to keep up with her energetic activities, were stuck in their ways, or had children in tow. She was an entrepreneurial free spirit, spending much of the last year abroad. She wanted someone who would match her zest, curiosity and positive outlook on life. They were not showing up on Match.com.
I joined her lament, as few of the men I’ve met in this adventure have had many of the elements she and I both sought. Although I have met some wonderful treasures, so far no one who I thought was “The One,” although a few had many of the characteristics I was seeking.
My friend decided to join some new online sites focused on her values. She was advised to hang out where like-minds congregated. So she’s attending seminars where she hopes to not only get inspiration and information, but to meet an evenly matched man.
Her tactic is not a new one. It is common advice to attend events and classes where others of similar interests convene. This way you’ll at least enjoy the activity, whether or not you find romance. Of course, if you only like quilting, fashion shows and flower arranging, it will be harder to find a man, although some men do enjoy such activities.
I believe you will find your love match when the time is right. And yes, you have to be out in the world in order to do so. But I don’t think you should necessarily make a point of hanging out in the hardware store, computer shop or monster truck rally to find a guy, unless you like those places anyway.
So, have faith, do what you love to do outside the house, and put a smile on your face. And remember that he’s looking for you, too!
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