The fear of finding “The One”
We can call it commitment phobia. But before we label it, let's examine it. I'd bet it has happened to nearly all of us at one time or another. You…
How does your parents’ relationship affect yours?
Our parents are often our role models for relationships, for better or worse. No matter how much I rejected my parents' toxic relationship as a template, I'm sure messages of…
Are you a dating “hypertaster”?
You are thinking, "What is DG talking about? What the heck is a hypertaster? And what can it possibly do with dating?" Let me explain. Yesterday, I had a fabulous…
Do you treat him like a friend?
"Love and friendship exclude each other." —Jean de la Bruyere Common wisdom is that long-term relationships are based on solid friendship. I agree. But I do ponder where is the…
Are you ready to pick a guy?
A former beau and I had an email conversation today. He saw my profile again listed on a few dating sites and asked what was happening. I explained about the…
Do you infantilize your guy?
Infantilize: Treat (someone) as a child or in a way that denies their maturity in age or experience. In "Does he want a 'mommy'?" we discussed how some men want…
Are you his spare?
For a few weeks a gal pal was exchanging flirty emails multiple times a day with a an online match. He then suggested they have dinner and she countered that…
Should you respond to someone about whom you’re ambivalent?
You receive a nice, personalized email from a man on a dating site. He's crafted an message specific to you, commenting on items from your profile. His profile is fine,…
The power of appreciation in dating
Many years ago I heard a speaker state that 95% of communication in a romantic relationship should be acknowledgment. In other words, most of what you say to each other…
Slow down, you move too fast
Yesterday, I spent time with a colleague I hadn't seen in a long time. I knew he had been online dating so was interested in an update. He had decided…
Does he “get” you?
The dictionary has many meanings for the word "get." This discussion is about the informal term for "understand." But I think "get" goes beyond just understanding. My friend author/speaker Larry…