The fear of finding “The One”
We can call it commitment phobia. But before we label it, let's examine it. I'd bet it has happened to nearly all of us at one time or another. You…
The working date
I was interviewed yesterday by a Wall Street Journal reporter on the concept of working dates. Does this mean you bring your date to work, as you would bring a…
Learning about male magnetism from … rats
Perhaps you've lived this common scenario: You've dated a guy a few times. You hit it off and enjoy each other a lot. You feel great around him. He treats…
Do you treat him like a friend?
"Love and friendship exclude each other." —Jean de la Bruyere Common wisdom is that long-term relationships are based on solid friendship. I agree. But I do ponder where is the…
Do you give your date grace?
I mean grace in this sense: mercy, clemency, lenience, pardon, consideration, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, courteous goodwill. At the beginning of any relationship, there are ups and downs. In "What’s your…
When he tells you he loves you
You've been dating a guy for a little while -- no more than a month. You get along great, enjoy your time together, and perhaps have had a sleepover (or…
Is his toothbrush in your cabinet too soon?
Does the guy you're dating leave personal items at your place -- without asking? Two men have done this at my house. The latest was after a second sleepover, but…
Does your guy have friends?
A guy's friends -- or lack thereof -- tells you a lot about him. After you've dated a guy a time or two, mentions of his friends often waft into…
Does he share your POV?
POV -- That's film-industry shorthand for "point of view shot." When the camera shows what a character sees, that's their POV. We see the scene through their eyes. Wouldn't it…
Ignore dating rule #1 at your peril
Rule #1 actually applies to life, not just dating. It earned its exalted status as #1 during a family reunion. It was day two of the three-day reunion. Already those…
Expressing your upset with your guy
When conflict occurs in a personal relationship, it's easy to blame the other. In my communication seminars I teach a 4-step method* for telling someone you're upset with something they've…