“What would you need to feel comfortable having sex?”
I never would have thought of this question, but a friend suggested it as a way of discussing the desire to step up a dating relationship, without it just happening…
Are you a generous conversationalist?
This weekend I had the opportunity to be with a handful of extremely smart, highly accomplished executive women friends. I noticed two things about our conversations: Some of the women…
Posted inDating after 40 Real deal or faux beau
Noticing what’s positively eliminated
In relationships -- even dating relationships -- you often discover behaviors in the other that drive you batty. These behaviors aren't deal breakers, just minor annoyances. So you non-judgmentally share…
Posted inDating after 40 Real deal or faux beau
Being played by a pathological liar
I think of myself as a good judge of character. I usually trust my gut and can often feel when something isn't right. If something doesn't make sense, I question…
Giving and receiving emotional support
"My ex-girlfriend wanted me to support her emotionally, but she didn't do the same in return," my sweetie shared. "Hmm. I'm not sure I'd know the signs that someone was…
Posted inDating after 40 Real deal or faux beau
Is your guy “spoilable”?
We're usually more concerned with dealing with a man who is spoiled -- self-centered, immature, and thoughtless. Ditch those guys immediately. I'm talking about the opposite -- someone who is…
Posted inDating after 40 Real deal or faux beau
Easy way to ask hard questions
Some people find it difficult to ask probing questions to uncover their date's values, beliefs and preferences. Enter Intellectual Foreplay: Questions for Lovers and Lovers To Be, a book designed…
Paranoid or observant?
You've been dating around for a few years, having second dates or more with a dozen or so men. You have enough experience under your belt to notice that in…
Prince Considerate
Many women refer to their perfect man as Prince Charming. We want someone who is likable and knows what to say to get along with others. But charm can also…
Bank of Grace account overdrawn
You met a guy and you seemed to hit it off really well. You saw him a few times. Lots of flirting, which led to hand holding and even kissing.…
Are you holding on when you should let go?
Have you been in (or perhaps are in) a relationship that the other person isn't as into? It doesn't have to be a committed relationship, as this can happen even…