We live in a disposable society, where instead of fixing something, it is often easier and cheaper to throw it out and get a new one. Sometimes it appears this applies to dating as well.
With Internet dating, there seems to be a steady supply of potential suitors. Even if you don’t get contacted frequently, you can always search by your criteria and email as many men as you want. And some will respond.
So rather than trying to “fix” a budding relationship with frank talks, it seems much easier to just throw it out and get a new one. No fuss, no muss. Start anew. Get a fresh model.
When one depended on meeting someone at work, the gym, through mutual activities or friends, people seemed to work a bit harder on relationship hiccups. Now that your love life can change with the click of a mouse, people are more inclined to jettison someone who isn’t initially a fit. I know I’ve done this, reasoning why waste time trying to “fix” someone who doesn’t want to be fixed. Move on to someone who’s closer to what you’re looking for.
I’ve moved on from all the men I’ve dated so far. I’ve recycled them back into the dating bin for another woman to discover. Just as garage sales are full of junk for the seller and treasures for the right buyer, so is the dating pool. Just because he’s not right for you doesn’t mean he won’t be perfect for another.
So while I believe in working on relationships that have a great deal of potential, I also believe in recycling — men!
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