Salacious. Risqué. Erotic. Nekked.
You didn’t request them. He didn’t ask if you wanted them. He just sent them. Of him — or various parts of him.
When men have done this it makes me scratch my head. If I were only looking for a roll in the hay, then perhaps seeing the “goods” ahead of time might hasten the arrangements for a meeting. But since I want the whole package, these pics are off-putting. It does, however, give me a very clear picture of what he wants — even when the picture of the goods is a bit blurry.
A friend told me he communicated for a few weeks with an out-of-state woman he’d met on a mainstream dating site. She told him she wanted to show him something. She turned on her web cam and did a strip tease for him. He said at first it was titillating, but then he felt voyeuristic. He felt strange and declined her offer to do another for him. She even sent him a web cam so he could do the same for her!
She requested he send a pic of a specific body part. Wanting to appease her, he whipped out his digital camera and tried to find the right angle, lighting and background. He snapped away but nothing worked. After a while, he felt dumb trying to capture a part of him he’s not used to seeing in the view finder in order to send it to a stranger. He abandoned his effort, much to her dismay.
Men have asked me for erotic pictures before our first meeting. They typically ask if I have “other” pictures in addition to those on the dating site. This tells me it’s not worth even having a meeting as they are singularly focused.
A man said he was going to send me some pictures and hoped I wouldn’t be offended. I said, “If you think I might be offended, don’t send them. If you wouldn’t show them to me on a first date, don’t show me now, as we haven’t even had a first date.” He got it.
So if a man sends or asks for naked pics, just turn this negative into a positive by ending contact.
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