It’s been said ad nauseam that dating is like job hunting. The online profile is the application, the first emails and call the screening process, the first date the initial interview, the second and subsequent dates are additional interviews. Following this metaphor, I guess you only get “offered the job” when you decide to be exclusive with your partner.
There are flaws in this parallel, of course, but a glaring one is the application process. Not only isn’t all the information you want provided in an online profile, it is sometimes incorrect, just like in some resumés. However, we have to serve as our own fact checker.
One friend has a lengthy web page fleshing out many questions woman have wanted to know about him, from his relationship history, to philosophy on money, kids, sex, politics, religion, grooming, etc. He sends the URL to any woman wanting to know about him.
My friend George did a similar thing with his “Disclaimer” (“Sharing your dating disclaimer“) which he shared with women before getting intimate.
A relationship resumé is slightly different than the Boyfriend Application discussed in “Boyfriend application to go with job description.” An application tells the “employer” what s/he wants to know about the applicant. But a resumé tells the “employer” what you want him/her to know.
What would you put in your relationship resumé — and want in someone else’s? Here are a few items off the top of my head.
- Relationship goal: LTR? Casual dating? Casual intimacy?
- Age (real age, not “what I think I look/act like” age)
- Build; tatoos; piercings
- Kids? If yes, ages and living at home?
- Current marital status; if separated, for how long; if pending divorce, when expected to be divorced; if widowed, since when; if divorced, date of final decree as well as date of initial separation
- How long married and how old were you when marriage(s) began.
- History of other post-marriage relationships lasting more than a year.
- Why relationship(s) broke up. What part you played in the break up. What you learned from the relationship and break up.
- What do you want to make sure exists in your next relationship. What do you want to make sure is absent from your next relationship.
- Health, including any chronic physical or mental maladies.
- Residence status: Own home? Live with roommates?
- Work status: Employed? Title? How long with current employer? Prior to that?
What would you add to a template for a relationship resumé?
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