Tag: Dating after 40

We’d intermittently flirted by email and phone for almost a year. We lived thousands of miles from each other so promised we’d let the other know when we’d be nearby. He toured in a popular R&B band, but not to my area. Until now. A few months ago he told me his group was booked…

In A Woman’s Worth, Marianne Williamson says, “No man can convince a woman she’s wonderful, but if she already believes she is, his agreement can resonate and bring her joy.” But how many of us dating in midlife focus on our wonderful qualities? Isn’t it more prevalent to notice your wrinkles, bad habits and other…

I vet potential dates via the phone before meeting. Why? Because if I don’t enjoy the conversation on the phone, it’s pretty much guaranteed I won’t enjoy the face-to-face. I know some people are uncomfortable on the phone, but in this day and age, if you can’t converse comfortably whether on the phone or in…

I love dating men with a sales background. Why?

In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve Harvey says if a man doesn’t have a plan you should not fall for him. A “plan” means a vision for his future and how he will get there. That plan needs to include a woman in it. I’ve been surprised that some men have…

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment Generally, I like relationship books written by men for women explaining how men think and operate. Too many of us have difficulty fathoming how differently men function than women. The book is divided into 3 sections: The…

I’m a gardener. Every year new flora grow in my garden that I didn’t plant. Some call these weeds. Others call them wild flowers. What you call them depends on your perspective. While attending to some of these new residents in my garden, it reminded me of prospective suitors who come into our lives.

The term “scotoma” means blind spot. We all have the physical ones in our eyes, and I’d guess that we all have psychological ones, too. It means we don’t see something that is right in front of us or is apparent to others. In dating, it’s easy to have a scotoma for someone we really…

He sent a beautiful bouquet for my birthday last month, arranging for its arrival the day I returned home from SE Asia. He’s accompanied me to dress-up events, donning his Armani tuxedo with pleasure. He’s the epitome of a gentleman at these events, offering his arm to escort me, taking my coat and fetching it…

This phrase doesn’t work in a job. So why do people think this concept will work in dating? For example, it appears common thinking is:

The other day I fell in love.