Tag: midlife dating

In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve Harvey says if a man doesn’t have a plan you should not fall for him. A “plan” means a vision for his future and how he will get there. That plan needs to include a woman in it. I’ve been surprised that some men have…

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment Generally, I like relationship books written by men for women explaining how men think and operate. Too many of us have difficulty fathoming how differently men function than women. The book is divided into 3 sections: The…

I’m a gardener. Every year new flora grow in my garden that I didn’t plant. Some call these weeds. Others call them wild flowers. What you call them depends on your perspective. While attending to some of these new residents in my garden, it reminded me of prospective suitors who come into our lives.

The term “scotoma” means blind spot. We all have the physical ones in our eyes, and I’d guess that we all have psychological ones, too. It means we don’t see something that is right in front of us or is apparent to others. In dating, it’s easy to have a scotoma for someone we really…

He sent a beautiful bouquet for my birthday last month, arranging for its arrival the day I returned home from SE Asia. He’s accompanied me to dress-up events, donning his Armani tuxedo with pleasure. He’s the epitome of a gentleman at these events, offering his arm to escort me, taking my coat and fetching it…

This phrase doesn’t work in a job. So why do people think this concept will work in dating? For example, it appears common thinking is:

The other day I fell in love.

I recently spent time with a long-married couple. Like nearly all long-term couples, they’ve developed habits they don’t even know they have. One of this couple’s favorite ones, it seems, is bickering over inconsequential details. For example, “We went shopping last Thursday…” “No, it was Wednesday.” “No, I’m sure it was Thursday.” Etc., etc., etc….

You’ve heard of cops engaging in high-speed chases to catch criminals. Then OJ Simpson made the low-speed chase a new buzz word when he was avoiding arrest. The concept can be applied to dating, although it is not to avoid incarceration. It might be to avoid entanglement, but it also might be a sound strategy…

I am in Brunei this week for a client. “Where is Brunei?” you may ask. On the north shore of the island of Borneo. It is beautiful, lush and tropical. Have you ever been to an amazing place and wished you had a sweetie to share it with you? This is one of those places.