A friend of mine died this week. I don’t know if I’ll ever become accustomed to people dying, especially when someone succumbs unexpectedly, as he did. When someone passes it prompts us to reflect on what’s important. Loved ones always appear at the top of that list. We become more appreciative of the gifts around…
Month: November 2006
Dating as therapy
Dating books say that dating shouldn’t be used as therapy. In other words, you shouldn’t use your guy to be your sounding board and work through issues as you would with a therapist. In fact, even if he is a therapist — especially if he is a therapist — you shouldn’t expect him to act…
Are you a happy dater?
The other day one of my dearest friends Ellie, asked me how I managed to stay so happy. It’s true that generally I’m a perpetually perky person, but I do have my bouts with unhappiness when faced with setbacks and disappointments. I’ve worked hard to reduce the time I spend in a dreary mood when…
Dating sex questions from a midlife dating freshman to a senior
My neighbor is just starting dating after a 30-year absence. Two weeks ago she joined a service that matches her and men with comparable intellect, education, income and personality. She’s had dates with three men. She had questions for me — many questions! Frosh: “You have been dating a lot longer than I have. I’m…
Getting to know a man through his humor
A recent press release announced a new dating site, Funny Passions, for “singles with a sense of humor.” This strikes me as odd. I’ve never met anyone who thought him/herself humorless. Nearly everyone thinks they have a sense of humor, even if it’s obscure. Why is this site different? The release says “an entire site…
“What are you wearing?”
I’ve been asked this on the phone by more than one potential suitor. Sometimes he’s met me, but more often he hasn’t. I’ve decided it’s part of the fantasy he’s creating. What does he want me to say? The truth — gardening togs? Baggy sweats and warm socks? Flannel nightie and fuzzy slippers? I tried…
Are you a “Let’s Make a Deal” type of dater?
Do you remember the TV show, “Let’s Make a Deal“? TV.com describes it as “a game of intuition, skill, luck, decision making and greed…all mixed into one.” Sounds like dating, doesn’t it? Maybe not the greed part, unless a gold digger is involved. I was thinking about this show as I was comparing several men…
Do you need your sexual pilot light lit?
In an interview with Gail Sheehy about her book Sex & The Seasoned Woman she talks about having “a pilot-light lover — a transitional figure who comes into a mid-life woman’s life and reawakens her excitement about sex and love. He usually doesn’t last. He’s not a keeper, but she has to celebrate his role…