No, I am not referring to the term most commonly associated with the f-buddy phrase. I have a new meaning for f-buddy — flirt buddy!
What is a flirt buddy? Someone you can flirt with by email, phone or in person who knows you have no serious intentions. Some of my favorite flirt buddies are married men, whose wives know that their husbands and I flirt.
One f-buddy even called his wife over to listen to a flirty voice mail I’d left him where I asked if he thought she might allow me to be his “extra” wife since he was so financially smart that I was sure he could afford two. She howled with laughter, saying “That girl has no idea what she’d be in for.”
Yesterday I had lunch with another, whose wife has not met me but knows a lot about me. He shared that he told her exactly where he’d be and that she could call during lunch if she wanted. She didn’t. She knows he — and she — are safe from any indiscretion with me.
Several single men have become f-buddies, as we know we are not a good match, but enjoy playing and flirting. They are often the same guys I go to with my, “Can you explain why a guy would…?” questions.
I think flirting is key to dating, especially when getting to know someone by email and phone. If you can’t flirt — without going over the line — it is hard to show your interest, at least until you meet face to face. If you can flirt, it gives the other a smile and giggle. As long as it’s not smarmy.
Have trouble knowing how to flirt? See “Flirt your heart out.”
What do you think of flirt buddies?
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