Ashleigh Brilliant writes clever sayings that make you laugh or think. Part of his, well, brilliance is that the sayings are limited to a maximum of 17 words. He is one of the most widely-quoted living writers, and also the highest-paid (per word).
One of my favorite Pot Shots (which his musings are called) is the name of one of his books.
I May Not Be Totally Perfect, But Parts of Me Are Excellent
This is a good dating mantra. When you begin to focus on your imperfections (body shape, skin, wrinkles, hair, teeth, “baggage”), it is easy to forget that there are parts of you that are stupendous. Maybe it’s your quick wit, infectious laugh, great listening, continual thoughtfulness or loving compassion.
The guy who is for you will love you for all of your parts, not just the excellent ones. It’s the imperfect bits that make you the interesting and enticing creature you are.
And it also keeps you humble! Imagine how easy it would be to be arrogant if everything was flawless? My experience is the folks who are most arrogant have major imperfections and they use haughtiness to try to mask these failings.
Part of Cindy Crawford‘s allure is her mole. Angelina Jolie‘s overlarge lips are considered sexy. Mona Lisa‘s smile is enigmatic. Imagine how she’d look with a big smile flashing perfect, pure-white teeth.
Celebrate your unusualness. Perfection is boring and unattainable. Your atypical parts make you special, unique and rare. They are what makes you you. Which is, no doubt, excellent.
(Click on Ashleigh’s name above and you’ll go to his web site which has various products, including postcards, books, t-shirts, mugs, pillows, and hats with his over 9000 Pot Shots.)
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9 responses to “Are parts of you excellent?”
You said it.
But I think I have got the one, we have been dating for 2 years and we are planning to get married.
Hi DG,
Thanks for sharing this, it is another one for the fridge, so when I start to get down on myself for not being a supermodel, I can remember your wise words – I may not be perfect (physically I’m not even close) but I do have excellent inner qualities. Now, where are the guys who are looking for a real middle-aged woman with real flaws, a smart mouth and a heart of gold and not some 20-something airbrushed cutie?
Best wishes from bookyone 🙂
I bought that book and some of his postcards 23 years ago! I still have the postcard that reads, “I may be hard to reach, but I may be worth it.” It featured a character at the center of a maze. I am more technologically accessible than ever, but I’m still hard to reach…
Does anyone remember the scene from the second Bridget Jones film where the gorgeous Mark Darcy stopped her from getting undressed under a blanket because he LOVED her wobbly bits and wanted to see them???
I have a guy like that. They do exist.
Gatti, grateful every day 🙂
Recently, an actor named Brad Garrett from a TV show called Everyone Loves Raymond was being interviewed by Jay Leno on his late-night talk show. Brad uttered a phrase that is prompting me to get a wardrobe of tee-shirts and other printable items made for myself, all of which will read: “I am an acquired taste.” I think that says it all, simply and succinctly.
I understand there are guys and gals who prefer thicker and thinner partners, to each his or her own, but does anyone honestly know of anyone who prefers ladies with rotten acne scarred skin? Truthfully, I’d take a weight problem over my nasty skin any day of the week. Even derm. treatments haven’t helped much (antibiotics, Accutane, you name it, I’ve tried it). I am going to try lasering next, wish me luck, til I get this mess under control I wouldn’t be caught dead out in public or even in the privacy of my own home if there was anyone else present without a face full of makeup. It makes it a little tough to have a relationship when you spend all your time worrying that he’ll see you without makeup on and run screaming for the hills. Men are so superficial it’s pathetic… 🙁
Bookyone:
No, I’m not going to agree that men are superficial.
After my makeover, I asked my guy what he thought. I had on no make up at the time I asked. He said, “Honestly, I can’t see the difference. You are gorgeous to me all the time.”
*That* is not superficial!
Hi DG,
That is cool that you have such a good guy. Hang onto him, they are rare and worth their weight in gold (or platinum even)… 🙂
Best wishes from bookyone 🙂
Hi DG,
Please don’t think I was trying to insult your guy or any good guys for that matter. It’s just that all the guys I’ve ever dated were such superficial jerks. I think I have a sign around my neck that reads JERK MAGNET. I just wish I could yank it off so I could attract nice guys instead of jerks and players.
BTW: I am going to get more laser work done in the near future on my stubborn skin, (I have rosacea and melasma as well as acne and bad scarring, lucky me)… The day I can go out in public withut a pound of makeup on will be the day I consider myself reborn and free. 🙂
Best wishes from bookyone 🙂