I’ve fantasized about putting together my perfect man — my Franken-boyfriend. After dating a lot of men, I’ve grown very fond of different parts of many. I’d like to build my perfect man with the beautiful green eyes of one, the height of another, one’s sense of humor, another’s deep, resonant voice, the kindness and sensitivity of one, the dancing skills of another, one’s superior intelligence, the kisses of another, the attentiveness of one, the adventurousness of another, one’s business acumen, the caresses of another, one’s playfulness, another’s sense of style.
If you were to put together your Franken-boyfriend, what characteristics would you pull from your male pals or fantasy dates? It’s important to identify what’s important to you, but to realize that outside the movies, one man who contains all those attributes probably doesn’t exist. So be clear on what is most important to you.
One way to become clear is to notice what you like and don’t like about your dates. Keep a list of each. You’ll discover that something you thought you wanted gets on your nerves if overdone. I like whomever I’m dating to call and touch base each day. However, I realized there was a limit to this when I had one boyfriend call me 5-6 times a day to tell me what he was doing. I like affection, but one guy’s kissing me every 10 minutes was too much.
So notice what you want in your Franken-boyfriend and be prepared that you may fall for someone who doesn’t have some characteristics you thought were very important!