Removing your mask
Most of us wear a mask, presenting ourselves as we want people to perceive us, not only in dating but in life. We decide how much and how soon to…
Eliciting your friends’ reactions to your guy
After dating a guy a while, you want to introduce him to your friends. You're hoping they'll see how terrific he is. But what if they don't? You are torn…
Do you infantilize your guy?
Infantilize: Treat (someone) as a child or in a way that denies their maturity in age or experience. In "Does he want a 'mommy'?" we discussed how some men want…
Slow down, you move too fast
Yesterday, I spent time with a colleague I hadn't seen in a long time. I knew he had been online dating so was interested in an update. He had decided…
Is his diet a problem for you?
Or is yours a problem for him? In past postings, I've explored how the way a man eats can be problematic (eats salad with his fingers, chews with his mouth…
The money talk
My 63-year-old gal pal has been dating her 70-year-old boyfriend a few years. They recently returned from a fabulous vacation. I asked her how they worked out expense sharing. She…
How are you about receiving gifts from your guy?
It's my birthday! Since my sweetie's work week ends at noon today he's flying in this afternoon to take me on a dinner/dance cruise and spend his "weekend" with me.…
Is he crazy — or are you?
They fell quickly and hard. Within 2.5 weeks of meeting, they were exchanging I love yous. They spent every weekend together and most weekday nights. They were sure they'd found…
The first fight
New relationships frequently end over a first fight. Sometimes there isn't even an actual fight, but one of you says/does/doesn't do something that upsets the other and it's over --…
When to remove your online profile?
You've been dating your guy for a little while -- perhaps 1-3 months. You like him a lot and he seems to like you similarly. You have no interest in…
How to detect the end is near
Many midlife women have shared that they are blindsided, as I have been, when a man breaks up with them or just disappears. We are curious what signs we missed…