Early on, I scoffed when I was told men see dating as a job interview. How could finding love be similar to finding a job?
But then a guy recited his resume to me. I learned where and when he went to school, his major, and a litany of his jobs, including dates and companies.
Since then I see the job interview parallel is more on target than I originally thought. I am dismayed when a potential suitor has not reviewed my profile before calling or meeting, so asks me things I've been clear about in my profile. As an employer, I would not be keen on someone who shows up for a job interview without reviewing the ad or job description.
If he shows up late or unkempt, I am also not impressed. If he talks too much about what he wants without asking what I want, or ignores my offering what I'm looking for, then we aren't a fit. Just like a job interview, there needs to be give and take on what is needed to be a good match.
I wonder if men would approach their next job interview with the same cavalierness that they do dating? If so, I can understand why some stay single for so long.
Today I have a lunch date. I have visited his web site, read his bio, and printed his profile. I'll review it before I leave so I can be conversant on important things in his life. Let's see if he does the same. 🙂
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Here’s an idea for where to get great questions for an interesting first date: watch “Inside the Actor’s Stuido.” Each guest is asked the same set of questions just before the interview is turned over the the audience for their questions. My favorites from the host, James Lipton:
> If heaven really does exist, what’s the first thing you’d say to God when you get to the pearly gates?
> What’s your favorite sound?
> What’s your favorite word?
> What word do you hate the most?
> If you weren’t in this profession, which one would you like to try?
> Which job would you never do?
> Why did you choose acting as a profession?
> What’s your favorite curse word and why?
I’ve heard some great answers to these questions over the years (two of my favorite interviewees – Dustin Hoffman and Johnny Depp – revealed a lot about themselves in the answers).