I believe what goes around comes around. How you treat others is how you will be treated. Of course, there are always exceptions — you were cranky with someone and she went out of her way to be nice. Or you were nice, and he was mean. But generally, I believe if you are polite, thoughtful, and classy, that is what you will attract to you.
So I always make a point of thanking my dates, especially if he bought coffee, lunch or dinner. I would thank anyone who bought me a gift, so why not a date? I email him thanking him for meeting me and something I enjoyed from our conversation. If I’d like to see him again, I say so. If not, I tell him we’re not a match. But I do so gently and kindly. I’ll cover this is a later posting.
I think the most important time to keep focused on dating karma is during a break up. A guy I’d dated for 6 weeks recounted all my flaws during an email telling me why he was breaking up with me. I could have countered with an even longer list of his flaws, but I thought better of it. What would it do but let me vent, and why inflict that vitriol on anyone? Instead, I said, “You’re right. We’re not a match. I wish you the best. Goodbye.” And I moved on.
When someone is mean to me I ask who do I want to be in response? Someone as low as him? No. I think better of me than he does of himself. So I work to be gracious and classy and move on.