No, I’m not asking if you are fat. Although many midlife women are concerned about extra pounds that have accumulated through childbirth, enjoying life, heredity, and slowing metabolism. I find it interesting that most of the overweight men I’ve gone out with don’t consider themselves overweight, but near-normal-weight women often consider themselves fat.
I’m talking about PHAT: Pretty, Hot And Thick. This term has become popular with the under-30 crowd to describe curvaceous, voluptuous, Rubenesque, plump, plus-size women with a saucy attitude.
In dating, it can be sobering reading many men’s profiles that say they only want a woman who is slender when you know you aren’t. I am thrilled when I read that a man accepts — and sometimes prefers — a woman with some curves. What this says to me is that the man is a bit more open minded than many, and understands there are amazing women in packages that are beyond size 2.
Last year a movie titled PHAT Girlz starring Mo’Nique, focused on showing that women who wear queen-size hose can feel sexy and be attractive to hot men. Queen Latifah has never shied away from strutting her stuff in tight-fitting, revealing clothing. No longer is being larger a reason to feel one must hide behind matronly clothing.
Being PHAT is mostly about attitude. It is not being afraid to wear flattering, curve-accentuating clothing. It is about feeling sexy and allowing that attitude to come out. You exude self-esteem and like who you are. It shows through your walk, your posture, your solid eye contact, your easy smile, your flirting.
If you have a larger figure, what do you to feel PHAT? What do you feel you do to show you feel hot on a date? What movies, actresses or recording artists do you look to for inspiration?