Listening to my preferred radio station today, I noticed how many of my favorite songs are love ballads. Not lyrics of heartbreak and disappointment, but songs of deep caring and affection. Okay, I admit it, in addition to Luther Vandross, Marvin Gaye, Toni Braxton, Babyface, Gladys Knight and Michael Bolton, I like tunes by Barry White, which are not all exactly tender love songs. But they are sexy.
I noticed how my heart has ached to be loved by someone the same way the lyricist described — and to love someone similarly in return. The ardor described seems so deep and unshakable. Is it all an unattainable fantasy?
It got me thinking whether we choose our favorite music based on our feelings toward love and life, or if our feelings of love and live are shaped by the music we hear. They seem to go hand in hand.
If you are pessimistic about love, does downer music contribute to that feeling? Some teenagers are known to have listened to head-banging heavy metal before committing suicide or harming others. If you listen to music where the men are two-timers, players, cads and jerks, or derogatory toward women, does that reflect how you view men?
So if you start listening to love ballads, will that help you have a more hopeful attitude toward finding a great guy? And then you’re more likely to find one? Or will it depress you that you don’t have one?
What kind of music do you listen to and how do you think it affects your attitude about love? And if you find you listen to pessimistic music and want to see if optimistic music might help you change your attitude, will you experiment with it and tell us what happened?
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