Fifteen years ago, a guy pal 10 years my junior was bemoaning that he wanted to be married. Really wanted to be married. I asked him some key questions, then announced my diagnosis: He needed to know how to act like a husband. Then the women he dated would see he was ready for marriage. So I adopted him as my Assistant Husband in Training. I was sure my husband wouldn’t mind my new project, as long as there were no marital privileges.
We started his training regimen immediately. We were at a professional convention in a downtown hotel. I said, “Let’s begin” and slipped my arm through his for a stroll through the surrounding shops.
“Let’s go into that jewelry store so we can shop for engagement rings.” He complied — he was already being a good trainee! After trying on the biggest diamonds in the store, I chose the one I thought would show his pseudo undying devotion to me and got his agreement. We thanked the jeweler and promised to return later.
In a clothing store he learned to say, “That color brings out your beautiful eyes,” “That style would be hot on you,” “I’d love to take you to dinner in that outfit,” and “Do you need shoes to go with that?” He was a quick study on how to make a woman feel special.
We headed off to lunch. I made sure he knew to open the doors, escort me to the table, pull out the chair, and maintain interested conversation and eye contact. And of course, pick up the bill.
Over the next year we continued our intermittent training program. He’d call periodically and ask how to impress one of his dates. Then he met a woman he decided was a fit, so wanted suggestions for ways to woo her. I was such a good trainer and he was such a good student, he was married within the year!
Don’t you wish the men we date enlisted in boyfriend training, then graduated to husband training? And wouldn’t you love to have a mentor teach you how to entice a man and keep him interested for years? Where are such schools? What would you want to see men taught in such a training program, beyond the requisite pick up your wet towels and don’t chew with your mouth open?
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