Sometimes in dating we begin to doubt our attractiveness, especially if we have a series of first dates and no second ones, or it seems difficult to get even a coffee date. I believe most women think they are plainer than they are, as I said in “You are (probably) more attractive than you think you are.” I also believe some people enter the dating scene with low self-esteem, as I discussed in “Don’t think you are damaged goods.”
No matter how good looking you are, there is always room for a little updating or tweaking. And if you feel average-looking, it is amazing sometimes what a makeover will do for you.
Last week, my friend Sandy Dumont offered me an afternoon of her image architect services while I was in her town making a speech for a group to which she belongs. It was a wonderful opportunity to see where I could make some improvements. (When I told my sweetie I was going to become more gorgeous, his always-perfect response was, “That’s impossible!”)
While I’ve worked with a dozen image consultants in the past 25 years, and learned from nearly all of them, Sandy’s approach was different. She worked to educate me as well as show me how I could tweak my make up and hair style to be more attractive and effective. And she suggested my colors weren’t exactly on target and gave me a pallet of new ones that would bring out my best features.
Her wall of “before” and “after” photos was striking — some of the women (and a few men) were unrecognizable in their “after” pictures. One woman’s “before” showed a 70-something mousy woman who looked like she could be anyone’s grandma. Imagine my surprise to see the “after” pic depicting a sexy 57-year-old babe after just some modifications to hair, make up and a more flattering blouse. I knew Sandy was a miracle worker!
So while I’m generally happy with my “look,” Sandy taught me some subtleties that I will incorporate to achieve an image that is more congruent with how I want people to perceive me.
She has a free ezine and offers DVDs, books, webinars and online consulting, as well as workshops around the country.
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