An interesting man contacts you through a dating site, but he lives several states away. Even with the distance, you decide he’s intriguing enough to get to know. Besides, you’re going to be in his general area in two weeks, and perhaps he’d consider driving to meet you. You get to know each other via…
The joy of boy toys
Younger men. Sometimes decades younger. Perhaps young enough to be your son. I’m not usually drawn to them because they are typically even more immature than the fifty-somethings I tend to date. And I abhor the concept of and term “cougar” so would never want to be accused of one. But every once in a…
6 Ways to Get Love Right in 2011!
(Dear Readers: I knew my friend and relationship coach Amy Schoen was offering her telecourse this month so asked her to submit an article to let you know.) by Guest Blogger, Relationship Coach Amy Schoen The clock struck midnight on New Years Eve and you were with your friends or alone with no one to…
Do you suffer from verbal diarrhea?
I had two dates recently with successful, nice, intelligent, educated men. However, I noticed something that I find extremely common in dating — they both had no idea they were droning on in great detail about people or stories that held nearly no interest for their listener (me!).
The activity partner
When your friends are all coupled and rarely want to do something social without their spouse, it can be hard to find activity buddies. Sure, there are singles events in many locales, but often they feel like an audition instead of just having people with whom to do things. And other than your all being…
Do you bust his … chops?
Men often show their connection by teasing and good-naturedly insulting each other. They can make pot shots about the other’s weight, thinning hair, bulbous nose, incompetencies, shortcomings or lack of sexual prowess without taking it personally. So what happens when a woman — especially a woman he’s attracted to — tries to join in the…
What was she thinking?
A 25-year-old woman agreed to meet — for the first time — a man she’d connected with through a dating site at his house at 9 p.m. to go out to dinner. When she arrived at his door, he grabbed her by the hair and pulled her inside. There, a gun-toting accomplice demanded her keys…
Thank you for using good manners
When leaving my exercise class at an elementary school auditorium, this sign caught my eye. It made me think it ought to be posted at coffee shops to remind daters to use their manners! Why did this cross my mind? I had another date that left me scratching my head. I checked with a couple…
How soon is too soon?
General wisdom is to take some time to be alone after any relationship ends. The shorter the time in the relationship, the less time it takes to recover. I once heard that most people need 25%-50% of a relationship’s duration before being ready to have another relationship. After talking for two weeks, a man disclosed…
Stud finder
When I decided to hang a picture recently, I wished I had a stud finder to ensure the nail went into wood instead of just plaster. Then it hit me — wouldn’t it be great to have a similar tool when looking for a man! One that would guarantee hitting a solid man, not a…
Men underestimate women’s need to feel safe
We’d talked on the phone a few times but hadn’t met. It was early evening when we talked again and he said he’d love to take me to dinner that night. But he had a favor to ask: his Jag was in the shop so would I drive to his area for dinner? He lived…