My friend, bestselling author Sam Horn, has a new book out, POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd. At first glance, you’d think POP! is strictly a business book and says nothing of value for daters. However, that’s not the case. There’s a lot in the book you can apply to dating.
Over brunch a few days ago (where we serendipitously were served POPovers), we brainstormed a common question she’s been asked at her book promotion radio and TV interviews. The question is how can a dater use POP! principles to be captivating within seconds. We applied the basic POP! concepts to a first encounter, say you want to meet someone at a bar.
P: Purposeful — Think about how you want to be received, what response you want from your opening comment. You want a pleasant conversation, not someone blowing you off. You want to seem intelligent, thoughtful and fun.
O: Original — Your comment needs to not sound like a line. So “You’re hot,” Come here often?” “Great band,” or “What’s your sign?” are out. You might have to hover near your target to pick up on something he’s saying to a pal, or notice an unusual ring to comment on. You need to show your uniqueness by saying something uncommon.
P: Pithy — It needs to be short and to the point. Don’t give your resume, or how attractive you think he is, or how long you’ve been admiring him across the room. He’ll zone out, even if it’s about him.
So what are some POP! lines? There are no rote ones to memorize. You have to be present, noticing things around the room and your target person. Just be sincere, make eye contact, stand up straight (so your confidence shows and he won’t see your knees shaking), and say it with a smile.
Tell me how your POP! lines work out. (BTW, when you try the POP! method, it doesn’t make you a POP! tart.)
And order Sam’s book (just click on the title above). It is one of the best investments you’ll make this year and will help you in your business as well as personal life. To see if she is speaking or doing a book signing in your area soon, click on her name above.