A friend shared that she was too naive after her decades-long marriage ended. She was clueless about not only how to be with men other than her now-ex-husband, but about how she could be harmed while she learned.
Tag: boomer dating
To play games or not?
Deb writes: “I have had 4 dates with one man and I find him very interesting, funny, smart and a gentleman. How do I tell if he is really interested in me? I have read books and everything says to play a game, acting like you are not interested and he will come after you….
Somethin’ somethin’ on the side
A recent conversation with a guy pal was startling. He’s a smart, goal-oriented, ethical, solid-morals, middle-class guy. So I assume he hangs out with other like-minded folks. But apparently not so much.
Following a man’s lead
Since my divorce, I’ve had a fear of dance classes. Not because I’m concerned about following the steps — I’m reasonably adept at that. But it’s for another reason — something that I think might plague other accomplished women. It might be something that you struggle with yourself.
Are you trying to date men who think they are hotter than they are?
He’s got a comb over, beer belly, and has donned a wrinkled shirt. Yet he thinks he’s James Bond. George Clooney. God’s gift to women. Why?
Dipping into salsa
Salsa — a spicy dip and a spicy dance. My latest experience is with the latter. Dr. Philling myself, I asked how online dating was working for me. I’ve met some interesting men and gathered a few sweethearts from the experience, but know there are other options. Yet, being situationally introverted, I’m not great about…
I want to date his family
It’s a bit awkward when someone you’re newly getting to know invites you to a casual family event and you end up hitting it off with his family much more than you do with him! This happened to me this weekend. My new activity partner (AP) and I had agreed to see a movie. He…
Two-step for one
Yee-haw! Country Western dancing. Let’s go! This was my feeling as I decided to try something new, a bit out of my comfort zone, in my quest to experiment with meeting available men in the “natural” way. Common advice from dating experts is to take a class in something that interests you. So I thought…
“I don’t know if my equipment still works!”
While munching sushi and margaritas, the sweet, 62-year-old widower shared his concern as we discussed dating. His wife of 3 decades had died 18 months ago and he was dipping into the dating pool. What he found was a lot of aggressive, sexually hungry women. He was dumfounded that they tried to seduce him on…
Casual sex
His online profile mentioned that he loved sex, something that is usually a yellow flag as it says the man doesn’t have much of an appropriateness filter. But other things he shared made me give him some slack. Half an hour into our first phone call, he said he “loved, loved, loved sex.” He suggested…
Authenticity vs. strategic phoniness
I was listening to my friend Mike Robbins speak to a group about his newest book on authenticity, Be Yourself. Everyone Else is Already Taken: Transform Your Life with the Power of Authenticity. He’d asked the audience a few questions about what value authenticity has in our lives and then he asked why being authentic…