Is he assertive enough for you?
In women's dating stories of budding relationships gone awry, there are two common themes: The man was too aggressive too early. The man wasn't assertive enough to say what he…
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Do you put your dates through tests?
Do you make men jump through some hoops when dating you? What do I mean? Some women will only date a man who: makes the first contact. treats her to…
“It feels so comfortable”
A gal pal described her relationship with her new beau with this common phrase. We interpret this as it feels right. If it weren't right, it wouldn't feel comfortable, right?…
Truffles, pigs and romance
You may have heard of the pheromone androstenone, found in boar saliva, that is similar to what men secrete through sweat glands. It is said to drive some females into…
Midlife dating etiquette
The other day I was asked me for some rules of etiquette for when one is beginning to date. While etiquette is, according to the dictionary, "the customary code of…
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Care of newbie daters
Many midlife daters reenter the dating scene after a long absence. If they aren't a long-time single, they are available again because of divorce or death of their spouse. At…
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Do you project life with your date?
Do you project your life into the future with the guy you've just started dating -- sometimes even before you've met? I've been guilty of this, as well as been…
The fear of finding “The One”
We can call it commitment phobia. But before we label it, let's examine it. I'd bet it has happened to nearly all of us at one time or another. You…
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Do you think you’ll change his mind?
Yesterday, I ran into a high-school buddy -- someone I hadn't seen in over 30 years. He stopped me at our neighborhood's dance party, to which the whole city is…
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Is Brad Pitt ruining your love life?
Last night I saw Ocean's Thirteen. It was an eye-candy feast, with George Clooney and Brad Pitt 25-feet high. Yum! We know how effective media is in shaping our perspective,…
How does your parents’ relationship affect yours?
Our parents are often our role models for relationships, for better or worse. No matter how much I rejected my parents' toxic relationship as a template, I'm sure messages of…