When dating, it’s common to get one’s hopes up at the beginnings of a new connection. If things go right at the start, we’re encouraged that the relationship will blossom. But what if there are hiccups near the beginning? Giving grace is admirable. However, what if there are too many to continue with that forgiving…
Tag: dating over forty
Valentine’s Day — celebration or curse?
It’s upon us again. Every year in the gloom of winter we fight the unwelcome bulges resulting from over-indulging in holiday treats. We trudge through rain, sleet and/or snow to our commitments, praying Spring will come early as relief. Just as the world could not seem harder or bleaker, it sneaks up on us and…
Love vs. respect
Long-time reader Richard sent me an email posing some interesting issues about how men and women see and need love and respect differently. Here’s part of our exchange.
Is “I’m sorry” a good thing or a bad one?
I strongly believe if you know you’ve done something to cause another inconvenience or pain, you should acknowledge that with an apology. What if there are too many apologies from someone you’re going out with? Or too few?
Tips for delicious dating after 40
(Readers: Ghirardelli asked me to write about my take on delicious dating and integrate a few of their products — which I do love. But full disclosure — they did send me samples. I thought you’d like this.) The prospect of dating after 40 can strike horror in the hearts of many women. Even though…
Alpha male — or just jerk?
Is seems universal that people find confidence attractive. But at what point does self-assurance cross the line to arrogance and thus become unattractive? This week I was contacted by a self-described alpha male. These men are typically proud to be dominant, “my way or the highway” kind of guys. They consider compromise wimpy. They often…
Being Kermit
For decades men have been disparagingly referred to as frogs. The opposite of a prince. But what if you are being frog-like? Not in behavior, but in voice.
Are you like a Tootsie-pop?
“A Tootsie-pop? Really?” you say. You know, the kids’ treat. “How can I, an accomplished, midlife woman, be like a Tootsie-pop?” you ask. Good question. Let me explain.
Dating resolutions for 2012
Resolutions are not just declarations of what you wish you could accomplish. They are firm decisions, according to the dictionary. So as we enter 2012, what commitments, pledges and promises do you make to yourself about your dating activities? Here are mine to get you started:
Do you feel loved at the holidays?
The holidays can feel lonely if you don’t have someone with whom to enjoy the season. No matter what you celebrate — or maybe you don’t celebrate anything — December is filled with reminders to be with loved ones. What if you really miss having a special someone? You like to snuggle in front of…
Men, dating and shiny objects
You’ve exchanged a few fun, interesting and engaging emails with a new guy from an online site. Maybe you’ve also had a satisfying phone call or two. He promises to call again in the next few days. He says he likes talking to you and wants to get together. Then…