Tag: online dating advice

  • Cougar Town should crawl back into its lair

    Last night Cougar Town aired with 45-year-old Courtney Cox playing Jules. I was hoping for a humorous yet positive portrayal of single women in mid-life. What I saw was a sad commentary full of inconsistencies. I realize sit-coms often have nothing to do with anything near reality.

  • Are you expecting boyfriend behavior too soon?

    Sharing with a gal pal after a second date, I expressed disappointment that my date didn’t treat me like my last beau did. My wise friend said, “You’re expecting him to display boyfriend behavior but he’s not your boyfriend yet.” She was right! In fact, he probably hadn’t even decided he was interested in being […]

  • “He can change”

    I heard the male version of this the other day from a friend pining for an ex-girlfriend. Yes, people can change. Some can change at the snap of their fingers, vowing to stop or start a behavior immediately. A few actually accomplish that. Others change after starts and restarts, taking days/weeks/months/years/decades to adopt the new […]

  • When broken trust is irreparable

    Solid relationships are built on trust. So what happens when one of the pair does something that strains — or completely breaks — that trust? If it’s a one-time, never-to-be-repeated event, and the bond is strong, often the offending party receives grace and forgiveness and the relationship continues. But what if there are multiple fibs, […]

  • Table manners: Knife and death at dinner

    I’ve heard men say that women are too picky about unimportant aspects of a man’s behavior. I think it depends on what one considers important and unimportant. Many women would consider table manners important (or somewhat important). Few of us appreciate a man who chews with his mouth open, talks with his mouth full, licks […]

  • 99 men on the wall

    Maybe the little ditty “99 men on the wall” will replace the old song we sang loudly on long bus/car drives, but only women will be singing it. Today I have a meet/date with man number 99. It’s taken nearly 5 years to go out with 99 men and I have slowed down a lot […]

  • “You are perfect for me”

    I was seduced by these words. They went straight to my heart. Even though the local man’s actions rarely paralleled this sentiment. Even though much of the time I wondered why he didn’t bother to set a time to get together while his text and phone messages talked about how much he missed me and […]

  • Different definitions of “pursue”

    Webster’s dictionary says “pursue” means: “seek to form a sexual relationship with (someone) in a persistent way.” I explained in “Tales of woo” how some men’s definition of “pursue” seems skewed to me. Another example has occurred this week. A few weeks ago a local man showed signs of interest. We emailed a few times, […]

  • My next boyfriend will be a bellman!

    Arriving home tonight from an 11-day international trip, I lifted my heavy bags into my trunk at the airport. It occurred to me that I’d schlepped these bags more than I cared to when help was not on the horizon. It made me appreciate the cheerful van drivers, bellmen and skycaps who did offer to […]

  • Command presence

    For decades (centuries?) women have been drawn to men in uniform. Is it the crispness of their attire that is the allure? The fact that you know they’ve learned responsibility and discipline from being in the service? Some appeal to our desire for a man who knows how to protect us? The respect we have […]

  • The triple-emotional-whammy wedding

    Do you get emotional at weddings? Enveloped in the flood of love, joy and hope it is hard not to be. You are caught up in the palpable adoration between the happy couple. Maybe the nuptials remind you of how elated you felt at your wedding(s), immersed in the endorphins from being in love. Or […]