Tag: online dating advice

  • The first post-divorce dance

    I would never have guessed that one of the most difficult rites of passage after divorce was a first dance with a new man. If you’re like me, you may have slow danced with very few men other than your husband during your marriage (assuming he danced at all), unless you took dancing lessons that […]

  • Should you tell him he’s crossed the line?

    In the getting-to-know-you stage, you’re wrong if you tell a man he’s crossed the line and wrong if you don’t. If you do, you can be seen as controlling. If you don’t, you give the impression that whatever he did/said is fine with you. Or you can just disappear and he’ll never know why.

  • The tingle of possibility

    Saturday, the first day of my professional association’s conference this weekend, a married gal pal introduced me to a colleague of hers. He was tall and good looking. We only said hello as we scurried to our sessions. I had reserved a table for 10 for Tuesday night’s gala and invited her to be my […]

  • Musician hits sour note

    We’d intermittently flirted by email and phone for almost a year. We lived thousands of miles from each other so promised we’d let the other know when we’d be nearby. He toured in a popular R&B band, but not to my area. Until now. A few months ago he told me his group was booked […]

  • Do you own your wonderfulness?

    In A Woman’s Worth, Marianne Williamson says, “No man can convince a woman she’s wonderful, but if she already believes she is, his agreement can resonate and bring her joy.” But how many of us dating in midlife focus on our wonderful qualities? Isn’t it more prevalent to notice your wrinkles, bad habits and other […]

  • Are your conversational habits costing you dates?

    I vet potential dates via the phone before meeting. Why? Because if I don’t enjoy the conversation on the phone, it’s pretty much guaranteed I won’t enjoy the face-to-face. I know some people are uncomfortable on the phone, but in this day and age, if you can’t converse comfortably whether on the phone or in […]

  • Does he know how to close?

    I love dating men with a sales background. Why?

  • Wanted: A man with a plan

    In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve Harvey says if a man doesn’t have a plan you should not fall for him. A “plan” means a vision for his future and how he will get there. That plan needs to include a woman in it. I’ve been surprised that some men have […]

  • Review of “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man”

    Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment Generally, I like relationship books written by men for women explaining how men think and operate. Too many of us have difficulty fathoming how differently men function than women. The book is divided into 3 sections: The […]

  • Is he a weed or a wild flower?

    I’m a gardener. Every year new flora grow in my garden that I didn’t plant. Some call these weeds. Others call them wild flowers. What you call them depends on your perspective. While attending to some of these new residents in my garden, it reminded me of prospective suitors who come into our lives.

  • Scotomas in dating

    The term “scotoma” means blind spot. We all have the physical ones in our eyes, and I’d guess that we all have psychological ones, too. It means we don’t see something that is right in front of us or is apparent to others. In dating, it’s easy to have a scotoma for someone we really […]