When a trophy wife or girlfriend is mentioned, it is often with derision and cattiness. We think of a beautiful, but often empty-headed woman attached to a rich, powerful, often older, unattractive man.
But what if you’re dating an attractive man? Not just a man you think is attractive, as we know a man’s attractiveness to us increases based on how he treats us and how we feel about him. But a man who others say is handsome, good looking, or even hot?
I had this experience last week when I was at my professional association convention. My friends asked why I looked so happy and I whipped out a pic of my beau. The most common response was, “Wow! He’s handsome.” Perhaps some were just being nice, but if a friend shows you a picture of an average-looking man, you are likely to mutter, “He looks like a nice man,” or “He has a kind face.” But you are not inclined to give his looks a higher rating than you feel.
So after a dozen reactions to his striking good looks, I felt compelled to add, “And he’s highly intelligent, extremely thoughtful, and treats me like a queen.” I didn’t want my friends thinking I was enamored with him only because he is hot. I felt obliged to let them know he was more than eye candy.
Not that I was apologizing for having a stunning beau. But I wanted my pals to know that I loved more about him beyond his looks.
Have you dated a gorgeous man who others recognized as such? If so, did you find yourself wanting to explain he had virtues deeper than his handsome features and/or buff body?