Some women judge a man by his car. If he drives an expensive car, she assumes he’s financially sound. But he could be hocked up to his eyeballs to pay for it.
And men think a cool car equals sexiness. I met a potential suitor for coffee whose screen name was “Boxster.” I watched him drive away — in his SUV. Maybe his Boxster was his other car — the one he drives when he wants to impress a date! Or maybe he chose that name hoping to entice women.
A man often poses next to his (or assumedly his) cool car and posts the pic on his online profile. One man showed himself next to a hot sports car. However, on closer inspection, the car was in a dealer’s showroom! So either he had his pic taken while car shopping or he sold cars for a living.
A dating friend has two cars — a Toyota Echo and a convertible Mercedes Cabriolet. On a first date, he purposefully drives the Echo. He says if his date makes a negative comment or seems put off by his wheels, that’s the last date.
For several months I dated a man who owned 5 cars — just for him. I joked that he could match his car to his outfit. But he drove the car that matched his mood. We most often went out in his Cadillac, sometimes the Oldsmobile, and only once in his $150,000 limited-edition Mercedes, which he saved mostly for driving to business meetings. But when alone, he most often drove the beat up Buick with ripped upholstery.
A gal pal told me her current beau owns nine cars.
What is it with men and cars? I’ve owned two cars at one time, but one was to be a gift to my niece when she turned 16. I understand that part of men’s infatuation with cars has to do with phallic symbolism, especially for sports cars. And that a high-end car supposedly advertises success. And this car-equals-prowess goes back to high school when shallow girls thought a guy was hotter when he drove a cool car.
But evidentially midlife women are still impressed with some cars, and thus the men who drive them. I admit I notice if a man’s car is clean and well kept. And yes, sporty cars are fun. Yet if a man isn’t appealing, his car isn’t going to turn that around. And if a man is alluring, it doesn’t really matter what make or model he drives.
What do you think about what your date drives?
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Fun subject, DG. I’ve dated guys with trucks, guys with Mercedes, one with an ever-changing BMW of some sort, one who had a “grandma” Buick. But the most fun is the guy who actually washed, waxed, vaccummed the car for me to make fancy Christmas party date that much more special. Felt like going to the prom at 45! He is a wonderful guy and always a fun date!