At the beginning of this new year, I think this is a question to ask ourselves about dating for ’07.
My friend, the amazing musical artist Jana Stanfield, created a song around this question. “If I Were Brave” goes, in part:
What would I do if I knew that I could not fail?
If I believed, would the wind always fill up my sail?
How far would I go? What could I achieve,
trusting the hero in me?
What if we’re all meant to do what we secretly dream?
What would you ask if you knew you could have anything?
Like the mighty oak sleeps in the heart of a seed,
are there miracles in you and me?
If I refuse to listen to the voice of fear,
would the voice of courage whisper in my ear?
If I were brave, I’d walk the razor’s edge,
where fools and dreamers dare to tread.
I’d never lose faith, even when losing my way.
What step would I take today, if I were brave?
What would I do today, if I were brave?
© Jana Stanfield
Listen to a sampling of the song, and if you like it order the CD it’s on. In fact, if you like Jana’s insightful, thoughtful, alluring music (she’s the queen of heavy mental), buy the boxed set of her four 2-CD albums.
If I were brave I would…
- …attend more functions where there would be men I might find appealing, like professional meetings and singles events.
- …make the first move with someone I find attractive, saying “hello” and starting a conversation.
- …speak up sooner when something isn’t working, even at the risk of losing the guy. If he can’t handle it, we aren’t a match.
- …reconnect with someone I really like if we parted amicably.
- …end every liaison cleanly, whether it’s only a coffee date or longer-term connection. Don’t allow myself to just disappear, as I hate it when men do this, but instead communicate “it’s not a match” with those who I’ve met for a date.
How would you date differently in ’07 if you were brave? If you weren’t concerned about rejection or getting a bruised heart, but instead led your dating life with the attitude of being aggressively single and thoroughly appreciating the process of finding your next love?
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