You feel stupid. You forgot to ask about appropriate attire and just made an assumption. He’d invited you to dinner and you mistook the name of the restaurant for a high-end one with a similar name to this tavern. You’re in a flirty, low-cut cocktail dress with glittering accessories and high heels, which is totally out of place for the shorts and t-shirts you see all other diners have donned. Your date is a tad dressier than they are, as he has on jeans and a long-sleeved shirt.
What to do?
First, acknowledge your faux pas to your date, as it will be obvious you misunderstood. Don’t try to blame it on him for not telling you the appropriate dress. It’s your responsibility to ask or to call the restaurant and inquire.
At this point you can’t really change clothes or restaurants, as he’s not appropriately dressed for a high-end place. If one of you lives nearby, you could suggest dashing home to change.
You can reduce the disconnect by removing some of your sparkles (bracelet, necklace, earrings), and/or letting down your hair if it’s in a chignon.
Or you could laugh it off and have a great time. You will be the center of attention in this beer joint, so why not enjoy it?
As a high-school senior, I was invited to join my best friend and her fiancé on a double date with his best friend. I’d met my date once and knew he was a few years older than me and had a good job. We would go to a nice restaurant for dinner, one I knew nothing about. I asked my friend what to wear.
“Wear that dress you wore to your friend’s college ball.”
“The full-length gown?”
“Yes, that would be perfect.”
I spent the better part of the afternoon getting ready, putting my hair into a French twist and applying evening make up to go with my floor-length prom dress. I was nervous as I hadn’t dated much. So I didn’t really know how to handle it when my date arrived at my door wearing a sports jacket and open-collared shirt.
I stuttered and stammered as I explained that this is what Gayle had told me to wear. I told him I’d go change, and he graciously said I looked great and I was fine as I was.
However, at the restaurant I observed that my friend was in a sundress and other diners were similarly attired. I tried to make the best of it and ignore being so out of place. As a seventeen-year-old I didn’t have the wits to know how to dress down my gown even a bit.
I was mad at my friend for misguiding me. But I could have asked my date directly for the dress code. Which is what I do now when I have any doubt.
What would you do if you found yourself inappropriately dressed for a date?
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