Dating after 40

There are various types of “buddies” in dating. Some you’re good with; others you’re not. You don’t really want a  no-strings-attached sex-only relationship. You want some strings if you are going to get intimate — at least some interest in exploring if you both want there to be strings, not just “That was fun. See…

I’m struck that many men’s online profiles say they want a spontaneous woman. It’s made me look at my own level of spontaneity. My experience of spontaneity is that someone else (a friend or suitor) calls or shows up and says, “Hey, I’m on my way to XXX. Wanna come?”

The attractive mature woman approached me after my talk on dating after 40. She said she admired my courage to take on dating so enthusiastically, but she was afraid to start dating. I asked what her fear was.

What determines if you are an item? Is it agreement about exclusivity? Is it the fact that neither of you is interested in seeing others? You may think that his regular calls, texts and weekly dates makes him your beau. He may think that you are just one of the women he is seeing, even…

You’ve struck up a nice communication with a man who seems to fit many of your criteria. He’s smart, educated, polite, funny, well traveled, successful and clearly interested in you and your life. His age, height, and economics are in the right range for you. You’ve talked on the phone several times and you’ve had…

I’m an equal-opportunity dater. I’ve gone out with Caucasian, Black, Latino, Asian, Indian, Native American and mixed-race men. Although it doesn’t always come up, I know some have been Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, agnostic and atheist. None of these on their own are deal makers or deal breakers. My interest or disinterest depends on…

(Read about our first encounter) A few days ago he returned from his global travels and was in my city for a few days. He remembered that my birthday is today so he decided to treat me to an early birthday celebration. He’s still handsome and buff at 61, but perhaps not as much as…

Here’s a recent question from one of our regular guy readers. I thought you might have some suggestions. There are usually inequalities when you are dating. One person has a more successful career. One person is better at interpersonal skills, and the other is better at technical skills. Differences that makes life interesting and the…

Hair. It can either be a source of pride or vexation. Women typically either love or hate their manes. If a woman’s tresses behave as she desires, she’s very happy. If not, she bemoans her bad hair genes. Sometimes both in the same day. What does a woman’s hair have to do with dating? A…

He’s tall — 6’3-1/2″. He’s dark — with a perpetual tan. He’s handsome — drop dead gorgeous. He has a deep, sexy voice. He’s funny, humble and adorable. He’s athletic — a former NFL player. Our 19-year age difference doesn’t seem to matter. There’s only one problem…

I once read a study’s findings that men who were married/partnered in midlife and older lived longer than men who weren’t. The researchers explanation? That if a man has a physical ailment, he’ll let it go, not wanting to see a doctor, thinking it will clear up on it’s own. If he lives with a…