This weekend while traveling I spent time with a gal pal. (I was staying at a hotel nicknamed “The Beau”! How fitting!). We were bemoaning our past relationships and how ignored signs at the beginning ended up dooming the relationship. Sometimes it took only months, but sometimes we’d stuck with someone for years who, in…
Dating after 40
New bonus with any purchase
I was asked to contribute five of my best tips for dating after 40 to the new compilation eBooklet, “Tips, Tools, and Resources for the Second Half of Life.” This 17-page booklet includes 5 brief tips in on each topic: “Rightsizing” — Getting Your House In Order Before The Crisis Sets In Positive Sibling Communication…
Move forward or move on
Today, a question from a reader: “I’ve been seeing a guy for 6 months and we still can’t get farther than a quick peck on the lips or a quick impersonal hug. I’ve told him I want more intimacy but still nothing. What should I do?”
It was bound to happen
In my five-plus years of dating, I’ve connected with thousands of men from various dating sites. Some have only been through email, others progressed to a phone call, and I’ve actually met face-to-face with 101 of them. I’ve never run into any of the ones who didn’t make it to the coffee date. Until today.
Guest post: 10 Reasons To Thank Your Bad Boyfriend
by guest author, Regina Barreca, Ph.D. Dear Readers: My friend Gina Barreca writes hilarious and thought-provoking books and articles. She and I thought you’d like her latest blog posting. She’d love to get your comments on this piece on her blog. I have mentioned a number of Gina’s books in past postings. Just search by…
“You’re more valuable than a wife”
After several months of daily conversations and a few in-person dates, this out-of-state suitor shared his sentiment. I felt complimented, but at the same time quizzical. I appreciated that he frequently sought and took my business counsel. But it made me think that he didn’t value a wife very highly. It stalled my desire to…
What’s your definition of “committed”?
A friend told me he’s going to buy a house with “Francine,” a woman he’s been seeing for a few years. “Great!” I said. “You haven’t cohabited with anyone for a long time, so this will be quite a change for you.” “No. I’ll buy it with her and stay there sometimes, but I’ll keep…
Granny panties, schoolmarm and Church Lady
It continually amazes me to hear the comments some men make during the pre-date stage. You would think they would focus on putting their best foot forward, thinking about how they want to make a great impression. But no.
Haunting exes
You glimpse a man who looks strikingly like a past love. In front of you at Starbucks stands a guy wearing your former sweetie’s cologne. The song plays on the radio that you slow-danced to with your ex, naked in front of the fire on New Year’s Eve.
Midlife crushes
“Crush” sounds like a school kid, doesn’t it? Remember those feelings of infatuation, exemplified by your hanging out at the crushee’s locker or outside the gym as he left practice? Or perhaps you were like me, not-so-subtly keeping score for the team on which the object of your desire played. In high school, I gave…
We have a winner!
Our Valentine’s contest judges found it difficult to choose a winner because there were so many good entries. I wish I had more prizes to award! I’m sure there will be other contests in the future as I seem to now be getting a regular stream of prize offerings.