Do you give your date grace?
I mean grace in this sense: mercy, clemency, lenience, pardon, consideration, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, courteous goodwill. At the beginning of any relationship, there are ups and downs. In "What’s your…
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Do you want an “E-Ticket” guy?
If you visited Disneyland or Disney World before 1982, you remember what an "E-Ticket" was. If you don't, it refers to the entrance tickets for the park's most thrilling or…
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After the breakup, what if you miss him?
No matter if you broke up with him or he with you, after a while -- days, weeks, months -- you may begin to miss him. The horrible things he…
When he tells you he loves you
You've been dating a guy for a little while -- no more than a month. You get along great, enjoy your time together, and perhaps have had a sleepover (or…
Is his toothbrush in your cabinet too soon?
Does the guy you're dating leave personal items at your place -- without asking? Two men have done this at my house. The latest was after a second sleepover, but…
Does your guy have friends?
A guy's friends -- or lack thereof -- tells you a lot about him. After you've dated a guy a time or two, mentions of his friends often waft into…
Does he share your POV?
POV -- That's film-industry shorthand for "point of view shot." When the camera shows what a character sees, that's their POV. We see the scene through their eyes. Wouldn't it…
Fun midlife date ideas
In today's San José Mercury News, I was quoted in an article on "Summer's Worth of Dates: 13 Places to go for Romantic Rendezvous." The reporter, Mark de la Vina,…
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Are you out of his league — or he yours?
"I'm out of your league" sounds so snooty, snotty, and superior. You're looking down your nose at the other, saying he isn't good enough for you. A potential suitor once…
Ignore dating rule #1 at your peril
Rule #1 actually applies to life, not just dating. It earned its exalted status as #1 during a family reunion. It was day two of the three-day reunion. Already those…
Host a singles mingle
A pal is having a divorce party soon when his paperwork is final. His divorce was amicable, so he would be celebrating his new-found singledom. I suggested it might be…