A pal is having a divorce party soon when his paperwork is final. His divorce was amicable, so he would be celebrating his new-found singledom. I suggested it might be fun to turn it into a singles mingle event.
He said, “That would be boring, as I’d have a house full of guys.”
Me: “You don’t know any single women?”
He: “Not many. I’ve been married for a while!”
Me: “Tell your friends to bring single women.”
He: “Like they know any. That’s why we hang out together! None of them can get dates!”
Me: “I heard an idea where your ticket into the party is to bring a single person of the opposite sex who you think is great, but isn’t a match for you.” (I heard about this idea a long time ago, but then it was featured in a Sex and the City episode.)
He: “So you bring someone you dated but it didn’t work out?”
Me: “It could be someone you dated, or it could just be a friend you think is terrific, but not for you.”
He: “Does it need to be someone interested in dating?”
Me: “Well, that’s the purpose. I wouldn’t bring a guy I knew wasn’t interested in dating.”
He: “Could they bring folks who can’t get a date?”
Me: “You want to have a house full of terrific people, not those with low social skills.”
He: “But how could I also invite my coupled friends? They’re my friends, too and I want to be able to invite them to the party.”
Me: “Sure. You could have a way of signifying who was available and who wasn’t. Maybe a red dot on their shirt for “taken” and a green one for “available.”
He: “Well, this is sounding more interesting with the prospect of some interesting, hot women to balance my buds.”
Me: “Maybe you’ll invite me!”
If he does, I’ll report how it went!
Have you been to a party like this? If so, how did it work?
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Hmmm, wonder what was in the air about 12 years ago. After attending one of these parties, I threw one — about 12 years ago. It was called a “Bring a Boy” Party (it was about the alliteration, folks!). All the guys were asked to bring something liquid and all the women to bring a desert or appetizer. I supplied the serving items. About 50 people showed up on a Sunday afternoon at my home and we had a great time. There were a few couples who hooked up. I haven’t stayed in touch over these years to find out where it all went from there. It was quite an interesting group of people, including my former husband and three guys I had dated, all of whom remained my friends once we were no longer coupled. Each woman brought at least one guy, and it all turned out to be a very balanced event as far as both gender and food were concerned. Maybe it’s time to throw another one of these, on this other coast where I now live.
Great idea!! I like the addition of drinks/appetizers, too.
I’m thinking that it might work for single parents, too — hire a couple of babysitters for the kids, and put them all in a fun room/converted garage to play for a few hours…. While the adults mingle.
You’re inspiring me. Thanks.
Ah, this is sooooo timely! I have a women’s group made of ladies who are using online dating sites to meet guys, you know that coffee date after coffee date after coffee date!!! I hate coffee dates and thought, why not go back to the “old” way of meeting in public at an event! So, I advertised on a dating site for guys who wanted to meet my ladies at a cocktail party at a local club with no cover charge and it was magic! Great guys, lots of fun and dancing, good band, and a very cheerful crowd! I did a second party and it was even better! Now, I’m inviting the Party List Guys to meet us at a free Concert in the Park (bring your own dinner and ladies will supply desserts), thinking that some guys who wouldn’t go to a club might be more comfortable at such a Concert. It’s soooo easy and I’ve lots of positive comments from the guys!
You can check out the details of the parties in MY blog at
http://www.wonderfulonlinewomen.blogspot.com
xo Ellen
I was invited to one. Though the woman that invited me failed to inform me of the nature of the event until I got there. I think she was cheating (bringing someone in whom she was potentially interested).
I did have a great time, met a few nice people and actually was invited to a weekly rolling dinner group by a future good friend that I met.
One never knows….
They are fun and the gender ratio is right.