The man I started seeing a few weeks ago told me about a woman in a weekly group activity he attends who has become enamored with him and it makes him uncomfortable. When I asked what makes it uncomfortable he said, “I’m not at all attracted to her. She’s too effusive. She is always telling…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
Understanding the stage your guy is in
Review of Keys to the Kingdom by Alison Armstrong Ms. Armstrong began her study of what makes men tick in 1991 and her staff gives “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” workshops around the country. Her focus is on creating peace and partnership between men and women. She shares some of her findings in her novel, Keys…
The flirt-talk continuum
I’ve noticed that flirt-talk typically starts out innocently — you share things you like about the other, compliment him/her, tell him/her you think s/he’s cute, sexy or a catch, comment that you’re looking forward to talking/seeing him/her again. In person this is coupled with smiles, laughter, perhaps light touches and other body language to show…
Forgiveness is key
In Elizabeth Gilbert’s bestselling book Eat, Pray, Love she describes the year she took off to explore pleasure and devotion. She chose to spend 4 months each in Italy, India and Bali to immerse herself in what each place did best. In Italy she studied Italian and ate (gaining 23 pounds from pasta and pastry)….
Rules for Responsible Dating
Wouldn’t it be great if there were rules for responsible dating, just as there are rules for responsible driving? I realize not everyone abides to responsible driving guidelines, but at least some have been publicized so more people do than if nothing had been created. So how about we craft some rules for responsible dating?…
“I don’t want to be hurt”
A man I met online shared this in an early email. His ex-wife cheated on him and he hasn’t dated since his divorce seven years ago. He said it was because he didn’t want to get hurt again. I explained that nearly all relationships include some hurt at some point. Maybe it happens because of…
“All I seem to attract are players”
I discreetly turned to see who made this statement and saw an average-looking, middle-aged woman at the table behind me at Starbucks talking to a gal pal about dating. She was wearing a low-cut camisole emphasizing 3 inches of cleavage and black bra straps showing underneath the spaghetti straps. I made a snap assessment linking…
Woo-guru tricks
Readers, you know how low I’ll stoop — I mean, diligent I can be — when it comes to researching dating relationships. Well, I won’t stoop to speed dating, but you know I’ve read bad, but popular books, watched 1950’s marital advice films, listened to dating CDs of dubious value, and dated 77 — soon…
How do you know he’s interested in you?
According to my blog reports, this is a phrase many people search when finding this blog. I only wish I had the answer. It is much easier to identify how he shows he’s not interested, as I detailed in “Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date.” But knowing he is interested? That’s…
Are you in agreement that you’re dating each other?
I’d recently read that a man can go out with a woman 2-5 times (or more) before he considers them dating. A woman often leaps to that conclusion on the second date. (A male friend even suggested that some of us consider we’re “dating” a guy we haven’t met yet, only talked to by email…
Do his fingers hold clues to his behavior?
Hold your hands in front of you. Notice if your ring finger is longer than your index (pointing) finger. Are they the same size? If so, or if your ring finger is shorter, you’re a typical woman. If the ring finger is longer, you’re atypical. Ask your next date to do this test. The size…