Does your guy have friends?
A guy's friends -- or lack thereof -- tells you a lot about him. After you've dated a guy a time or two, mentions of his friends often waft into…
Does he share your POV?
POV -- That's film-industry shorthand for "point of view shot." When the camera shows what a character sees, that's their POV. We see the scene through their eyes. Wouldn't it…
Fun midlife date ideas
In today's San José Mercury News, I was quoted in an article on "Summer's Worth of Dates: 13 Places to go for Romantic Rendezvous." The reporter, Mark de la Vina,…
Ignore dating rule #1 at your peril
Rule #1 actually applies to life, not just dating. It earned its exalted status as #1 during a family reunion. It was day two of the three-day reunion. Already those…
Host a singles mingle
A pal is having a divorce party soon when his paperwork is final. His divorce was amicable, so he would be celebrating his new-found singledom. I suggested it might be…
Are you assessing — or judging — your date?
These terms are often used interchangeably. However, I see a difference. Assessing is when you notice things about him. He's 6-feet tall, blue eyed, with dark curly hair. He has…
Are you date sated — or hungry?
Sate: satisfy (a desire or an appetite) to the full; supply (someone) with as much as or more of something than is desired or can be managed. You know not…
Eliciting your friends’ reactions to your guy
After dating a guy a while, you want to introduce him to your friends. You're hoping they'll see how terrific he is. But what if they don't? You are torn…
Turn your liabilities into assets
Years ago I led a seminar on how to have a positive attitude at work. In the text, Attitude: Your Most Priceless Possession, author Elwood Chapman suggests employing the "Flipside…
Fresh out of men?
When you find yourself out of prospective dates, wouldn't it be great if you could just go to the store and pick up what you want? Were it that easy.…
What is your attire telling your dates?
Is what you wear on the first few dates with a guy sending the messages you want? Do you find men relate to you differently than you'd like? It may…