Jeff had some good advice. And since I’m always willing to horn in on my fellow blogger’s questions, my answer is to paraphrase (with apologies) Mahatma Gandhi’s famous quote: “We must become the change we want to see.”
We must become the woman the man we desire wants to be with.
Now, before you get your Spanx in a knot, I’m not suggesting you become someone you’re not. Instead, become the woman who loves yourself so much (not in an arrogant way) that the man you desire can’t help but be drawn to you.
Women tend to be so down on themselves, always pointing out the few extra pounds they need to lose, or other “flaws,” or talking about the losers they’ve been dumped by —- all while on a date! This is not appealing. Have the confidence to show you like, really like yourself! And those who have similar feelings about themselves will come your way. Your self-assurance will magnetize men who love women confident women.
But how do you bolster faltering confidence? Work on the parts of yourself with which you aren’t completely happy. Don’t telegraph your insecurities to your date — at least in the beginning. Later, when you’ve built trust and are comfortable being vulnerable, you can share. But it is not alluring to hear someone continually point out their imperfections, especially when the other person doesn’t notice them, or if he does, they are inconsequential.
So what could you do to be even more of a man-you-desire magnet?
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