Right man; wrong continent

He was not classically good looking. He had a pronounced nose and craggy face etched from decades of intense work. But his entrancing blue eyes made everything else fade away.

He stood straight so his fit 57-year-old body seemed decades younger. And when he looked at you, it felt like he really saw you. He listened and asked intelligent relevant questions. The combination was sexy — my married gal pals felt it too. He was divorced.

We met speaking at a conference in Singapore. We spent all our downtime together the next 3 days. I invited him to a small dinner party with some of my pals. He got along with them beautifully, balancing listening to their stories, asking questions and sharing his own experiences.

But alas, it was not to be.

He lived half way around the world.

There was no romantic interlude, as we both knew the folly of starting something that was too long distance. We enjoyed each other’s company and promised to stay in touch.

Have you felt an attraction to someone who was just too geographically undesirable? Did you make it work? What advice do you have for anyone considering an extreme long-distance relationship?


One response to “Right man; wrong continent”

  1. Yvonne Avatar

    I had a long distance relationship that lasted over 2 years. It was beautiful. I could not relocate to the other side of the world. That was 30 years ago and I was young and doubtful of my adaptability. I wonder what would have happened if I did. …. If it felt right again I would do it this time. I would surf the wave of VUCA and thrive!