A gal pal new to online dating asked me:
“What does it mean when a man offers to send you scantily clad pictures, and you haven’t even talked to him on the phone yet, let alone met?”
“Sex.”
“Say more.”
“When people want to exchange nearly nude — or even nude — pictures, I’ve found it means they are looking for sex, not a relationship. It’s common among that crowd to exchange nude pictures — sometimes just shots of key parts! Since they are only looking for intimate encounters, it really doesn’t matter what the rest of you looks like. They just want to make sure the equipment is to their liking.”
“No!”
“Yep. One friend showed me a site where people post nude pics with their face cropped off.”
“Amazing.”
“Where did you meet this guy?”
“This is a bit unusual for a YP contact, but not unexpected. There are other sites that cater to sexual hookups.”
“This guy also asked if I had ‘additional pics’ to share, even though I have 8 posted on the site.”
“He was wanting nude shots, and wanted to see if you’d know what he was talking about.”
“So should I continue to communicate with this guy?”
“Only if you are looking for a sex-only encounter. By the way, I’ve also had men ask me my bra size in the second email, and one sent me a list of questions he wanted me to answer, including intimate details. So these guys let their intentions be known early on, even if they aren’t explicit in their profile saying they want a sex-only encounter.”
Have you experienced inquiries from men who got too intimate too soon? How did you deal with them?
BTW, that is a pic of Bernie Barker, who Guinness dubbed the oldest male stripper before he passed away last March at age 66.
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People wanting sex only relationships are quite common on the online dating sites. Actually, they are quite common everywhere. I am surprised that a person would be naive about such a thing. I think the majority of people on the dating sites are just looking for hookups (I am not being negative, just the cold hard facts). It is like catalog shopping.
I didn’t even want to see beach shots when I was dating. My deviso: Until I’m used to looking at your face I do NOT want to see your chest!!!!!
I am so glad to hear other people have had this problem too. I keep reading in this site about DG having nice wonderful dates from meetin people online and I have not had that experience.
I signed up for Yahoo Personals last month and all the guys that were decent looking and I e-mailed, never e-mailed me back. I think they were made up for decoys. The only ones that e-mailed me we not very attractive or they didn’t have a picture available. When I asked for one from them, they usually didn’t e-mail back. I had several get onto my yahoo e-mail while I was online wanting to chat. A picture was not attached to that either. I would ask for one and they always had some excuse as to why they didn’t have one, like I just joined today. One said all he had was a cam. Wanted to know if I had a cam and some dirty pictures. I said no and signed off and immediately went to Yahoo Personals and discontiued my one month membership that I had only been a part of for 2 weeks. I had had enough.
I did notice that DG has her recommended dating online sites and I may try one of those eventually. I got a bad tast in my mouth after that 2 week stint.
I do want to say that my mother who lives in CA. dated online and met a guy that she has been with for about 5 years now and is married too, who is a wonderful, successful, good looking guy. So I know good things can happen, but I’m still a bit leary about how to go about it when I’m not going for the sex only part.