Starving at a feast of men

The men were well dressed, intelligent, good looking, successful, good communicators. They smiled and laughed easily and were outgoing.

I moved among them, chatting and flirting. They were engaging and interesting.

Yet I felt I was starving at this feast of men.


They were married.


I was not at a singles event, but at my professional association’s convention. The men — and women — are some of the most interesting you’ll ever meet. They are thought leaders, making a difference in the lives they touch.

This is where I met my ex.

Of course, there are some single men. Since I’ve become single, I’ve had dinner with a few of them. But we didn’t click.

So I enjoy my interactions with the men who’ve become dear friends and colleagues. They are treasures in my life. We enjoy each other’s company. I meet their wives and become pals with some of them, too.

If you find yourself in a similar feast of intriguing men, don’t be disappointed at their unavailability. Look at it as an opportunity to practice your conversational skills. You never know when one of them has a single best friend.


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3 responses to “Starving at a feast of men”

  1. Brenda Avatar

    You just never know – one of my clients met her husband through a man who she had one date with on – she and he were not a match, but the man’s friend WAS – and that’s all it took.

  2. INeverBehave Avatar

    Sometimes it just takes patience! I know it took me a while to be in a relationship again.

  3. Dating Goddess Avatar

    Thanks for the encouragement — I’m sure there are many of us in this boat!