Tag: Dating after 40

I would have never predicted that this would be a problem in dating. But it was — for a friend of mine.

Sometimes we find ourselves thinking about someone we would have liked to date, but it never came to be. You wonder how it might have turned out. If he’s still single, you wonder if you should reconnect. Or if he’s now a pal, if we should telegraph our romantic interest. A colleague and I found…

Since humankind began, people have been trying to improve their allure. Yet it seems elusive for many, even though some elements seem obvious:

I’d deleted his contact info everywhere I could find it after he broke up with me via text 2 years ago. I was surprised to receive that text, as our 5-month relationship had been tumultuous, but I (wrongly) thought we were committed to working out our hiccups. Our last conversation two weeks later — via…

A DG reader shared that he learned his last girlfriend was currently married only after he proposed when she said she was pregnant. It made me think of what else would be assuring to have someone prove before you got too involved. Of course, it would be considered rude to request the following — at…

I am a bit of a profession snob, tending to eschew men who I don’t feel have a similar job status. I’m not proud of it, but it’s true. I’ve tried dating blue collar men, and I’ve never found it worked well. So you’ll be surprised to learn that I had a first date with…

A reader wrote: “I am overweight — not morbidly obese but overweight. I mention in my profile that I am a bit overweight. I have yet to progress from one initial email with anyone. I feel as if it is impossible to get a date with anyone when you are overweight — am I wrong?…

There are lulls in dating life when you have no active prospects. You’ve moved to the “friends” category anyone who’s contacted you in the past. No one interesting has appeared on the horizon. For most daters, this is their most frequent experience, lingering, perhaps checking online sites for new arrivals. But either no one contacts…

I’d read data that said 50% of men listed on dating sites never get one contact from women. Yet my experience is that men rarely respond to my being the one who makes the initial contact, or for the few who do, it’s nearly all “thanks but no thanks.” So I decided to set up…

I like to think of myself as a generally positive person, but I have my pet peeves. Self-absorption is one of them, although I’m guessing I can act in ways that seem self-centered to others. Over the last few years, I’ve noticed others acting in ways that seem narcissistic. The visitors to the church next…