We’d flirted online a few times many months ago, then stopped. I can’t remember why. We started again last week. Last night he called. This psychology professor included these tidbits in his 45-minute monologue: He told me in great detail of his recent tooth extraction — his third — and his options for implants or…
Tag: Dating after 40
The dating hobby
Have you found yourself feeling that dating is a hobby? And just like some hobbies, you do it more or less often than other things you enjoy. I find myself immersing myself in some hobbies, then totally abandoning them for long stretches. And just like belly dancing, scuba diving or parachute jumping, you need specialized…
“Are you man enough to be my man?”
This can be a common thought for powerful, successful, midlife dating women. It was expressed by DG reader “Diamond” in a question to me: I’ve been in business my whole life. A friend’s mother shared this advice just prior to my running off to meet what I thought was the man of my dreams in…
Cruising for a date takes on new meaning
Yesterday Sprint announced a new mobile “friend finding” capability. This feature uses Loopt’s GPS technology to notify you of your friends’ whereabouts. (You set up permission for who you want to see where you are.) I imagine it won’t take long to marry this to Webdate Mobile, which enables access to dating profiles, chat and…
Treasures can come in dented packages
If you received a gift in a Tiffany’s box but the corner was mushed, would you be unhappy? If you were given a 2-pound box of your favorite Godiva with the top indented, would you be disappointed? No, of course not. Because you know it’s what’s inside that really matters, not the packaging. Many midlife…
The worst two words in dating
Here are a few examples of two-words phrases you don’t really want to hear while dating: Comb over Hair plugs Spousal reconciliation I’m married It’s over None of these would be music to your ears. Some of these are worse than the phrase I want to focus on: “I’ve decided…” These two words are…
Do you know what will make you happy?
When dating someone with whom you’ve become enamored, it is easy to project your life into the future. You imagine being intertwined every blissful day, moving in together, perhaps getting married. In this fantasy is embedded perpetual elation, constant joy, unbridled happiness. Wouldn’t it be grand if we could accurately predict such euphoria? Unfortunately, humans…
“Disruption precedes discovery”
Keynote speaker Ian Percy uttered these words as a way to explain that what he was about to say would be disturbing to some of us in the audience. In fact, he said, some of us would not like what he said at all. But his purpose was to shake up our thinking a bit….
Consciously creating the relationship you want
“Don’t let what you’ve created get in the way of what you want to create.” —Jana Stanfield My friend Jana Stanfield, the amazing musical artist, said this as we talked about our somewhat recent singlehood and what we could do with our lives now that we didn’t have a husband about whom to be concerned….
Who are you magnetizing into your life?
Some people believe they attract people into their life. Within reason, I’m one of them. I don’t believe that I attract every person with whom I come in contact, but I do think I’ve had important people come to me, if even for just a few minutes. When that’s happened, there’s been a lesson for…
Failed relationships’ blessings
A friend and I were discussing failed relationships. She said, “It depends on your definition of ‘failed.’ Not all relationships are meant to be long term. Sometimes you are pulled to be with someone for a short time to learn the lessons each of you has to offer the other, then move on.” I saw…