Some people believe they attract people into their life. Within reason, I’m one of them. I don’t believe that I attract every person with whom I come in contact, but I do think I’ve had important people come to me, if even for just a few minutes. When that’s happened, there’s been a lesson for me from my interaction with them.
I feel the same way about the men I draw into my dating life. I’ve enjoyed meeting nearly all the men with whom I’ve had at least coffee. Some have turned into beaus or treasured pals. And even the few who weren’t pleasant had a lesson for me.
This concept of attraction is articulated in Richard Bach‘s Messiah’s Handbook. I love most everything Bach has written. He has a knack for being pithy and profound at the same time. The quote I’m referencing is:
This is to certify that the bearer has been declared a Master of Spacetime, and is authorized to command absolute control over all personal life events and an indefinite number of simultaneous life experiences, to focus consciousness among them at will to freely choose triumph or tragedy as she or he wishes, and to magnetize such like spirits as she or he desires for her or his personal education and entertainment. This certificate is subject to the following limits: Self-imposed.
It’s there, that certificate, in everybody’s pocket.
I love this concept. But I especially love the idea that we magnetize people into our lives who we desire for our “personal education and entertainment.” That does not mean we use people for our own pleasure, but since the other person has the same certificate, we are there for his/her amusement or education as well. It’s mutual.
When you realize you are drawing people into your life — especially men who you meet to explore possible romance — your perspective shifts. You look at the man sitting opposite you with new eyes. What is he there to teach you? Don’t worry about what you are there to teach him — that’s his job to figure out.
In “‘There must be a pony in here’” I quote another of Bach’s aphorisms to remember when the encounter isn’t as positive as you’d like.
What do you think about the dating partners you’ve drawn to you? Do you see the lessons they’ve brought? Or were the there merely for your amusement?
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