When we are not the one who ends a relationship, even a short-term dating relationship, it usually stings. Being on the receiving end of the boot with a longer-term, intimate relationship often creates wounds that last for years. No matter how much we work to accept it — and in some cases welcome it —…
Tag: dating after forty
“You live a rich fantasy life”
Somehow that phrase crept into my repertoire many years ago. I don’t remember if someone said it to me or I made it up. But it keeps coming up as I hear someone say something that illustrates their view of reality is very different than mine. And of course, I sometimes get hit on the…
Readers: Want/need your input
Periodically, I’ll ask for your input on things that are going on in the DG world. If you’d prefer to email me directly rather than post your ideas, do so at Goddess@DatingGoddess.com. Your input is appreciated! ———– A producer contacted me to be a radio show guest to discuss midlife dating. He wanted to focus…
Reflections and resolutions
This is the time of year we look back at what we’ve learned and accomplished and look forward with plans for what we want to improve. Here are my dating reflections and resolutions. Reflections — dating lessons learned in ’06 While my dating quantity has slowed, my quality has improved. I continue to meet some…
Does your date share your world view?
Many months ago, I was sharing with a gal pal how I was smitten with the guy I was seeing. After stammering to answer when she asked why I liked him so much, she eventually asked, “Does he share your world view?” I stopped in my tracks. It was a question I hadn’t thought about….
You can tell a lot by your date’s … driving
I don’t recommend you get in a date’s car until you’ve gone out with him at least three or four times. But when you do, notice how he drives. It will tell you a lot about his personality. Here’s my take on driving habits and what they can tell you. Tailgates — He’s impatient and…
Building your rejection muscle
One of the reasons people are hesitant to date is because of the potential for rejection. I would say you not only have the potential to be rejected — it is a certainty. Let’s look at this word “rejection.” The dictionary says, “dismiss as inadequate, inappropriate, or not to one’s taste.” No one likes to…
Being seduced by what he is over who he is
I admit it. I’ve been so enticed by what a man is that it’s clouded my judgment about who he is. When dating the crazy psychiatrist, I adored when he consulted the pharmacist about what over-the-counter remedy would reduce my cold symptoms. I loved telling my friends that I was dating a doctor. Shallow, I…
Get back on the horse that threw you
After a distasteful or painful dating experience, it’s tempting to stop dating for a while. In fact, some people find a heartbreaking experience so odious that they swear off dating for years. While it’s a good idea to take a break to heal your wounds, if you go too long you lose your rhythm. You…
Your Date-A-Base — tracking multiple suitors
When people hear that I’ve dated 71 men in 2 years and that I often date several guys simultaneously, they commonly ask, “How do you keep them straight?” I respond, “With a Date-A-Base.” Since I’m a business woman, I’ve long kept a database to track my customers. In business it is also known as a…
Are you a happy dater?
The other day one of my dearest friends Ellie, asked me how I managed to stay so happy. It’s true that generally I’m a perpetually perky person, but I do have my bouts with unhappiness when faced with setbacks and disappointments. I’ve worked hard to reduce the time I spend in a dreary mood when…