Tag: online dating advice
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Are you teaching what you need to learn?
You may not be a teacher per se, but we teach by what we advise others. If you’ve been dating for any time, you have no doubt given a friend advice on a situation s/he’s facing. In writing these missives, I’ve become clear that what I suggest to you is often the lesson I need […]
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Are you emotionally ready to begin dating again?
A 7-year-divorced, midlife friend is starting to date again after a few-year respite. A few years ago, she fell in love with a man who seemed equally infatuated. They dated for six months, having sleepovers several times a week. It seemed this relationship was going to be long-term, so she took the plunge and introduced […]
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Biggest surprise with midlife dating
I’ve been interviewed a lot lately to promote the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 book series. A question I hadn’t really given a lot of thought to keeps coming up. It is, “What’s the biggest negative surprise you’ve had with dating midlife men?” Since I keep getting asked this, my response has evolved as […]
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Dating with “Beginner’s Mind”
The term “Beginner’s Mind” comes from Zen Buddhism. It means having an open mind, an eagerness and a lack of preconceptions when learning about a topic or activity, even when you aren’t a novice. Midlife dating can be difficult to approach with a childlike wonder because you’ve dated in the past and/or been in long-term […]
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Men’s fear: she’s a poser
Talking about dating with a midlife single friend he asked, “Do you know men’s biggest dating fear?” “Dating a psycho?” “No.” “Getting an STD?” “No.” “She gets pregnant?” “Those are all high on the list, but it’s not what I’m thinking of.”
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Sweetie-less for Valentine’s Day?
Valentine’s Day is meant for lovers. So what if you are alone on this day designed to celebrate love? What if you are like many women who are dating, but without a regular sweetie with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you’ve been dating around, but there’s no one with whom it makes sense to […]
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Nice guys don’t have to finish last
I have an inkling into why the cliché “nice guys finish last” has become an axiom. Nice is not enough for many women to find a midlife man appealing.
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Mistaking nice for interest
One of the hardest things in dating is when one of you misinterprets the other’s niceness or politeness for interest. I’ve been on both sides — the misinterpreter and the misinterpreted. Last night I was on the latter side. Neither feels good.
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He suggests getting naked — for the second date!
It’s not what you think. Yes, he suggested getting naked, although he didn’t say it that bluntly.
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Can he afford you?
While in Dubai, I befriended a 28-year-old local professional man who shared the romantic reality for many like him. His description made me think of some parallels to Western dating, although, of course, there are huge differences.
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Uneven ardor
It’s wonderful when dating someone who has the same level of infatuation you do. It’s fabulous to both feel similarly smitten. However, my experience is it isn’t that common to feel equal adoration. One of you is typically more entranced than the other.