If you’ve dated more than a few men who you learned didn’t exactly live up to the hype they promised, you’ll appreciate this video. It’s a fun parody of the hip-hop love songs extolling the guy’s sexual prowess.
But what if one were to be this honest when dating? Admitting one’s inexperience, ineptitude and insecurities — especially early on when you are really wanting to impress your date? It would be somewhere between sad and refreshing, depending on how it was delivered.
I appreciate when a man discloses he’s not as smooth as he’d like to be. One of the acts that sold me on my ex was on our first date he went to put his arm around me and knocked off my clip-on earring. I thought it was charming that he showed he wasn’t so smooth.
I like vulnerability — to a point. If he shows too much insecurity, it is not appealing. But an occasional admission of a soft spot is better than constant bravado.
What do you think the line is between insecurity and vulnerability? What has a guy done that showed he was wussy vs. self-aware?