We just created a new video, “Avoiding Dud Dates After 40” based on real-life experiences I’ve had with men — before I even met them! We tried to make t fun. See what you think. If you like it, would you do me the favor of sharing it through Facebook, Twitter, etc.?
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Category: Dating after 40
Darn. I was hoping to finally see the lady behind the curtain. Oh well, I’ll have to keep dreaming about the goddess.
Amazing that guys can be that dense. I’d like to see a For Men Only version.
DG: Ever think about starting a discussion forum linked to your website? People over 40 dating have different issues and perspectives than what comes up in most of the other dating discussion sites.
Very funny. NP on the sharing.
Some things are the same for men. Don’t be living with your ex or still husband. Send picture of your parts and when I comment about them tell me I’m weird. Tell me the reason you were late is that you had an outer body experience with a UFO. To name a few.
Funny!
But I wish you’d just put it up as a text post instead of a video. It was all only text anyway, so why not? The video takes forever to watch, waiting and waiting between the phrases, whereas reading through a text post is quick.
I second the comment about a discussion group for daters after 40.
Well, if you want it for the youtube crowd, then the video should be of you sitting by your computer. You, dressed in a short skirt, patterned hose, and stiletto heals. While you are typing on your computer, you open an e-mail. Then a voice over reads the offending e-mail with a shot of your reaction.
It should then end with an appropriately sensual, romantic e-mail, and a picture of you and a guy entering a restaurant for date #102.
If you’re going to do something that’s “YouTube friendly,” then why not do something that’s actually YouTube friendly (i.e., compelling content), not a glorified PowerPoint presentation. This “video” is insulting in its banality. I can’t imagine you reaching a new audience with something so boring, elementary, and hokey.
As far as I can tell, there wasn’t much that Gypsy Rose Lee never revealed. However, I believe it was Mae West that said “I like my clothes to be tight enough to show I’m a woman, but loose enough to show I’m a lady.”
“But if I’m on the screen, it loses the intrigue of my being cloaked, doesn’t it?”
Maybe just a teaser for your first video. I’ll shoot your from behind, with you sitting in your chair half turned, legs crossed. That way, we can see the patterned hose, stiletto heals, but not your face.
“If you’re going to do something that’s “YouTube friendly,” then why not do something that’s actually YouTube friendly (i.e., compelling content), not a glorified PowerPoint presentation. This “video” is insulting in its banality. I can’t imagine you reaching a new audience with something so boring, elementary, and hokey.”
I’m sorry, but I have to agree. I can’t imagine many people who see this would link to it for friends to see. In these times when digital film cameras are cheap, I’d expect a bit more.
You can go on Youtube and get all kinds of dating advice videos that feature live camera filming. That’s what people expect on Youtube. They don’t really expect to see something that could be done in Powerpoint.
Anyway, consider this constructive criticism.
OMG – what a ruckus a little video can make! I made three videos over last summer DG, and comments have been things like – very basic, obvious, etc. Yet its the same advice I give frequently on my blog.
Everyone’s a critic! But I say – I think you’re video is clever, short and fun, Good job! I hope it brings you the traffic you desire. Congrats on your entry into the youtube world. Merry video making! I’ll share it for sure.
I don’t know if you can avoid dud dates, either before or after 40. I’ve had about 30 “coffee dates” over the last few years and all but four of them were duds.
There are all the ones I meet online who never get to the coffee date stage. Either they or I weed the other out.
I think it’s impossible to know if it might work until you meet, and online dating unfortunately puts the meeting somewhere down the road. It’s not my preferred way to meet someone.
I think the video is charming and very well done. Could be because so many of them have happened to me that it made me chuckle.
I have experienced most of the tips: Requests for text sex, chat sex; Get to know you better if we had sex; still lives with wife (or worse Mom!); bazillion ex-wives/girlfriends; and of course out dated photos from back in their “hair” days.
I have been emailed pictures of “parts”. In one shot the part was “placed” beside the BBQ (which might have been to indicate scale?) but the thought of placing his bits so close to something so hot disturbed me even more – not to mention the hygiene aspect, like I’d ever come over for a BBQ lol!
I did think the last one was going to be “He asks you to pick him up… because he lost his license” (twice, both times I just left..)
I guess I’m lucky I still have a sense of humour… ;-D
Seems like overall, online dating is just kind of a weird way to go about meeting someone, IF the goal is to find a lifetime partner….
It only seems to work if the girl is super attractive, confident, and knows how to tickle a man’s fancy in a lady like way.
I’ll never forget when my sister sent me a profile of this guy who had ‘ unemployed’ checked on his profile (this was about 8 years ago). His picture somehow matched the whole image… like he just did not care. We laughed and laughed. I had one writing to me who put a comma after the first word of each sentence. I was thinking wt”heck.”