For 2.5 days I visited a relative I love dearly. However, it drove me crazy that she incessantly second guessed what I was doing. When I was packing, she suggested other ways to pack. She asked questions that I thought were superfluous (e.g., “What did you have for lunch?” “Will you and your boyfriend get married?” “What is your ex-husband doing now?”)
And she displayed one of the most annoying habits I know — not self editing. She exemplifies that phrase, “She has never had a thought not worth sharing.” So she tells great details about others we don’t know nor care about. And constantly chatters her stream of consciousness, no matter how banal.
But I love her dearly so put up with it, reminding myself she has a good heart and means well. And I was grateful I didn’t stay 5 days like last time.
It made me think about how important communication compatibility s in dating.
I’ve also experienced the opposite — being out with a guy who was so uncommunicative it was a lot of work to make any conversation. He gave me one-word answers to questions and never asked me a thing.
So where are you on this continuum? Are you a non-stop talker? If so, do you like quiet men? Or are you more reserved, and like someone who is more verbal? Or maybe if you don’t like to talk much, you like someone quiet, too.
One of the things I love about my beau is it seems we have the same talking tolerance. I don’t find he talks too much nor too little. And I hope he feels the same way!
You should be clear on your preference so you can screen out those who would get on your nerves before you even meet. Phone calls can tell you a lot, but some habits don’t appear until you’re face to face.
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